Do you have a fridge in the room? Does she only drink her coffee hot? Maybe she wouldn’t mind making it the night before and having iced coffee every morning?
Put the coffeemaker in the bathroom on the counter
^No, don’t be passive-aggressive. That doesn’t solve problems.
I don’t think that asking her to put it in a friend’s room is a realistic compromise - but OP, I think that figuring out where else to put it is her problem, quite frankly. You don’t have to come up with solutions for it. As you have already stated, you’re willing to compromise and you’ve made lots of concessions to her and she seems to keep taking and taking. But in this case, the coffeemaker is directly affecting your health: you can’t sleep and it gives you a headache. I think it’s totally reasonable to ask her to find somewhere else to make it and let her figure out where that “somewhere else” should be.
She is also doing other ridiculous and inconsiderate things:
-She could use her big bright makeup light in the morning in the bathroom, which is what that’s for. Doing it at 7 am when you’re trying to sleep after just getting off shift 3 hours earlier is rude and inconsiderate.
-Likewise, using a hairdryer in the room at 7 am when your roommate is trying to sleep is rude, and not something you should have to accommodate. Presumably your bathroom has outlets and she can dry her hair in there.
-She can absolutely use a desk light when you take naps. That’s sort of the standard when you share rooms.
And on top of all this, you have to do your makeup in the dining hall bathroom while she sleeps? This is inequitable, OP. You can have a chat with your roommate to try to ensure that both of your needs are getting met, but if she’s running her hair dryer and turning on her bright makeup light in the room at 7 am, I think you are well within your rights to brush your hair and do your makeup in the room at 10 pm or whenever you’re rolling out.
I interpreted that post as a suggestion of where the roommate can put it besides the communal kitchen or her friend’s room, not as telling OP to do the moving of it themselves. The bathroom counter might actually be a good place for it.
Ask for a compromise. You don’t work every night, right? Is it four nights a week? I think you must be honest. “I feel awkward about this, but the truth is that the smell of coffee gives me a terrible headache. I never go back to sleep.when it wakes me up. I am getting three hours of sleep eveytime the coffee maker is on. Can you please refrain from making it for two mornings a week, and move it into the bathroom?”
@AshParker113 Any luck with resolving this with your roomie?