<p>Hey all. I’m a college sophomore who had not the greatest roommate experience last year, though I could have had a lot worse. Basically I was set up with a nice guy who was also really weird and awkward. We also lived in a suite with two other guys who could give less than two ****s about me, which I get. </p>
<p>But then for this year I decided to do the dorms again rather than live on my own. So I chose to live in a standard triple. I got to pick my room since I am a continuing student. I saw that two people were already in one of the rooms and figured that two people separately chose that room. I wanted to be with sophomores rather than freshman, so I chose it, too. </p>
<p>Fast-forward to today, when I’ve been waiting to find out who my roommates are for the past 3 months. Then I find out that my roommates were already roommates last year and decided to room together again, which is cool. But I can’t help but feel that this is a little unfair to me, since I will be the one who doesn’t know either of them. All the while, they’ve gotten to know each other over the past year. I was hoping to make friends with my roommates, and I’m not saying that I can’t or won’t. But why decide to room in a triple if you’re already going to live with someone you know? </p>
<p>Basically I just want to know if I should be worried that I’ll be left out and if I should try to switch rooms or not. I don’t mean to sound like a spoiled brat, but I really just have rotten luck when it comes to these things. I want this year to be so much better than last year was, and I don’t know if this configuration will let that happen.</p>
<p>what about being friends with people you don’t live with?
i wasn’t really friends with my freshman year roommate and i ****ed up quite a few times (in terms of getting in trouble and potentially getting him in trouble) but as long as we stayed out of each others way it was fine. i made other friends.
and in the house i lived in sophomore year, i was only friends with 1 of the 3 other guys in the house. not a big deal either.
this upcoming year i’m living with 3 of my closest friends and it’ll probably be a lot different though. my point is you can still have a good time without being friends with your suitemates</p>
<p>Honestly, and I think as a sophomore you probably get this already, but the college roommate ‘experience’ isn’t always like the movies. They’re likely to not be your best friend, or your worst enemy. You might just have a ‘meh’ experience and move on at the end of this year. You don’t need to be BFF with your roommates, you just need to get along.</p>
<p>This could have still happened even if you chose another triple on the floor that had been empty. Housing could have even assigned you with two freshmen that knew each other from high school! So at least you got people your own age.</p>
<p>I understand you’re nervous, but just calm down a little bit. Your roommate situation is a small fraction of your life at school this year. There’s clubs to join, friends from last year, other new friends to meet this year, your classes, parties, and whatever else you want to do with your life. Just forget about this issue and look forward to everything else.</p>
<p>And who knows, you could end up assimilating into their group of friends and becoming best friends with both of them. That’s happened to people before. But it not, it’s really not the end of the world.</p>
<p>you dont need to be best friends with your roommate. with that being said, just try to get to know them. unless they are complete jerks, youll get to know them and hopefully have a great year. so dont try to worry too much about the fact they know each other.</p>