<p>I’m a freshman at Unlv (university of Nevada Las Vegas) but I was born & raised in Michigan. I’m still in my first semester but I feel so lousy. First off more than 70 percent of the students here commute. The ages of the students here are 18-55. & I’m not really use to the west coast. I use to live outside of Detroit where it’s mostly Mexicans and Blacks. I’m Black btw and I’m use to diversity but I think I’m culture shocked.</p>
<p>All my friends stayed in Michigan and 4 of them went to school together. My boyfriend stayed too… I only have one real friend here and we do everything together.And we have a great time (I’m not use to only being with 1 person majority of the timethough) … I joined serval clubs but the people aren’t my type but I still go. I tried talking to the ppl in my classes but they all commute so they have lives outside of school so they don’t really speak back… I’m just so freaking lonely here. I want to cry but my eyes won’t let me…When I talk to my friends back home they just talk about how much fun they’re having and start to compare my experience to theirs and I just start hating it here even more. I tell myself to focus on my studies and I do but once I’m done the feeling comes back. </p>
<p>But I’m not the only one who hates it here a couple of kids who live in the dorms too are transfering next semester. My one friend hates it here too she’s going abroad next yr then after that she’s transfering back to her home state. I plan on transfering my jr yr but I still want to have fun now. I want to go to parties and hangout with more people (the people here are very clique-ish) but I don’t. I’m sad lonely and jealous of my friends and boyfriend back home.
(Sorry my paragraphs are all over the place I’ve just been holding this in for so long. I been putting on a front for my people back at home that I just needed to let this out) … I hope I’m not alone.
(PS I typed this on my phone so excuse the errors)</p>
<p>Be honest with your friends. Start planning your transfer timeline and set some goals depending on where you want to attend. Think about why you wanted to go to UNLV in the first place. You’re not alone. People transfer all the time. Good luck!</p>
<p>You’re very lucky compared to me. You don’t have Asperger’s syndrome which is worse than cancer. I want a girlfriend while feeling sorry for myself, but girls never look at me. I don’t know why. Attitude is worthless. Looks are everything.This is the way I think, it’s always been that way.</p>
<p>Well, @lonelyloser94, YOU are lucky compared to others who have disabilities, such as schizophrenia, that are much more severe. It’s hard for a schizophrenic to function AT ALL, when a voice is yelling at him or her all day long. :(</p>
<p>Hopefully things turn up for you! I had that happen to me at one point - but once I transferred (and after a bit of adapting to the new environment) things turned out really really great. Is there a reason you plan to move in your junior year?</p>
<p>Even if you plan to stay, college is often a difficult transition, and everyone is going through that. Good luck!</p>
<p>What made you pick this school initially? What about the other kids in the dorms who are planning to transfer? If they are in dorms they are not commuters. Can you get a group together and plan some activity, either off campus or on? Does your school plan activities on the weekends for students?</p>
<p>I think for me to give a better answer, I would really like to hear the answer to the question posed by @surfcity</p>
<p>Obviously Michigan, your friends, your boyfriend, and your community are all very important to you. However, there must have been something that pulled you out to UNLV. </p>
<p>I would disagree with some of the other posters advise you to not assume you have to transfer. I hear a lot of fear about stepping outside your comfort zone. Do you really want college to be an extension of high school? Did you really come this far just so you can see the same friends, have the same relationships, and be with people who remind you of your old neighborhood? My heart goes out to people who want “the college experience” and do not feel like they are getting it. However, is what you are describing really “the college experience”? </p>
<p>You may be right about UNLV, I really do not know enough about it to say if the campus feel is a fit for you or not. </p>
<p>However, maybe you are so caught up in thinking about home that you are missing what is right in front of you. One of your complaints about UNLV was that you are not used to being outside of an area that has a large African-American or Mexican-American community. However, even if I conceded that you can only feel at home with people who have a similar cultural background (I live on the other side of the world, so I don’t concede that), a quick Google search showed me that. Join an African-American student sorority or organization.</p>
<p>Even if you do go back home, marry your boyfriend, spend the rest of your life with your friends (not that there is anything wrong with any of those things), you will never have to sit back and worry and say “is that all there is?”</p>