A “safety” school in this context means a non-audition program in a school that you can reasonably expect to get into with your stats. There are plenty of BA programs out there with fabulous theatre departments offering terrific training.
Since you seem to be prioritizing geography, you should probably choose a radius you’re comfortable with and start looking within that, unless you are willing to accept the idea of a wider geographic range in order to broaden your list.
As for your singing/dancing - you do not need that for most straight Acting BFAs. A few acting BFAs will ask you to sing, and they might have a movement call. I don’t recall offhand which ones but I know there’s information on CC about the various audition calls for many schools.
If you want to add singing and dance to your repertoire to apply to MT programs, then maybe you might want to consider a gap year? I will say that many if not most MT programs look closely at singing so it would be worth consulting with a vocal coach to see if focusing on vocals would be worth your while and to get an idea of whether you can get audition-worthy material ready for the upcoming season.
With dance, it is a mixed bag - some MT schools don’t even have a dance call, some just want to “see where you are” and will level you accordingly if they like the rest of your audition, some have a “mover track,” and some prioritize dance training as they intend to turn out true “triple-threats”. So, if you do your research you can weed out the dance-priority schools. My son can take choreography but has no dance training to speak of. He literally did the worm, the sprinkler, the twist, and flossed his way through an improv portion of his dance audition at his ED school. They took him anyway --but did not put him into the MT studio! 
I hope this helps! Best of luck to you this season!