<p>PackMom, you mom is just like my mom. She has her entire funeral planned, from the hymns and Bible readings right down to what pictures she wants on display and the wording of the obituary (actually the newspaper has one of those ready to go already since she is very influential in her community). She hasn’t needed any help yet, but has a local woman designated as the person to hire/oversee caregivers on her behalf. She has also said she is willing to go into assisted living or nursing, when needed, and has those facilities picked out. She is very vested in her community so the one thing she would not do is move. Her house is being left to the local college (whose property completely surrounds it on all sides) and she has already arranged to have the women of her church clean up and donate all the contents of the house after her kids have 30 days to get whatever they want first. My H acts as her financial advisor and does her investments, so I am not anticipating her aging to be a major challenge. My dad was such a polar opposite (probably why they were long divorced).</p>