<p>I work for a local community theater, we are/were working on the set–basically a replica of a house–when an accident occured. I was working on the fly system, when one of the larger pieces of the set started to tip over and fall, because certain people hadn’t secured it yet, while a young girl–a sophomore in high school–was finishing making a flat just in front of it.</p>
<p>There was no time to really warn her, or any one else, so I ran over and rather forcefully tried to push her–and myself–out of the way. I was able to get her out of the way, but my leg got caught underneath it, and long story short, it broke.</p>
<p>That was fine, I don’t mind being a little scrapped up because I am pretty sure something much worse would have happened if I did not intervene. My problem is that ever since the incident, about a week ago(since which I have spent most of my time on my laptop and posting on this site,) this girl has been seeing me everyday. I don’t mind that either, it is nice to receive a little thanks.</p>
<p>My problem is that I think she is “falling” for me, and I don’t like her in that way and I am pretty sure she only likes me because of the incident. Also, it is illegal considering I am almost 19 and she is barely 16. I’ve tried discussing this several times with her, but she talks to me like I don’t understand/mean what I am saying. I don’t want to hurt her, but at the same time I can’t allow this to continue. What should I do?</p>
<p>I think that you need to tell her. It’s the best choice for both of you. If you keep allowing her to think you are ok with her doing those things, she will eventually find out your true feelings. It’s best just to let her know before it gets out of hand. Best of luck!</p>
<p>Honestly, I think that is all that you can do. Has she told you she likes you like that? If not, then I wouldn’t worry about it, it’s only been a week.</p>
<p>I hope that she comes to her senses sooner or later, but I want this resolved before I leave. My college career starts in three weeks in a state very far away, and I do not want her to be in delusion after I leave.</p>
<p>At first she just seemed grateful, and seemingly felt guilty about it. Since then, however, she keeps talking to me like we are going out, and she keeps bringing me things like food and gifts and just other tell-tale signs.</p>
<p>before the two of you have any big conversations about “the two of you”, i would try to stress how great it is to have her as a friend. and only friend. (along the lines of “isn’t it great that a guy and a girl can talk and not worry about each other’s intentions?”) don’t be rude about it, but don’t skirt around the issue. sounds like she isn’t one for getting hints.</p>
<p>just don’t make it a challenge for her. she’ll probably get over you during the school year. good luck!</p>
<p>Quote:
“I have told her several times that I don’t like her in that way and that nothing can happen between us.”
“Wonder what’s on the girl’s mind right now. Assuming she actually liked you, it kinda sends chills up your spine.”</p>
<p>Exactly! It kind of feels like I am the author from Misery, except for different circumstances obviously.</p>
<p>Dude, I gotta say, you are *****ING AWESOME. I kinda picture an action seen where you tackle her down when you notice a slight slipping of the rope, REALLY hardcore stuff XD.</p>
<p>Anyways I would just tell her a white lie or something to cool it down for a little like “I have a girlfriend”. Its a cheap way to get out, but she is probably going to develop harder feelings and make it more difficult for a reasonable solution.</p>
<p>tell her you like somebody else or hat you have a gf, its easy
she might just be visitng you because she feels guilty, if she wasnt there to need saving , you wouldnt have broke your leg</p>
Lmao. I have to say I’d be pretty enamored if some at-least-somewhat attractive guy “saved” me </p>
<p>But in all seriousness, Gogallor I would agree that saying you have a girlfriend would be a clean way to cut it off before that girl becomes fully obsessed with you. Minimum effort, too. But I suggest not being mean. It’ll make things awkward.</p>
<p>Tackling/saving her bff/sister/mother in front of her seems like a fun possibility. </p>
<p>Or get one of your female friends, assuming you have one who is reasonably cool and attractive, to pretend to be your GF in sight of your young stalker.</p>
<p>There is a certain tendency in young girls to idealize older guys, especially if they have a shred of maturity or intelligence. She may not even have a crush on you, more like idol worship. I wouldn’t worry about it.</p>
<p>I think everything is starting to go in the right direction and that she has the right idea of what is going on. I was hanging out with her and a few of her friends today and everything seemed really relaxed and fun and not coupley at all.</p>
<p>It is actually really kind of funny now. Apparently, according to her friends, she has been telling everyone the story. At the same time, it’s kind of a shame, I finally have a good reputation and I am leaving in less than two weeks.</p>