<p>I felt like my wedding and any event in my life was to plug in what my sisters had already done. Disappointing. I would love to take either of my D’s to Kleinfield’s to try on dresses when the time comes. I very much want to make it a day that is about who they are. However, while a dress is just a dress, I really think sticking to your budget is the only way to go. I am always amazed at some of the people that seem to be really stretching everything just for the dress. And too… why do some people clearly looking like the dress is sausage casement love it? I will just never understand why the need for something to tight and showing, in some cases, enough cleavage for two women!</p>
<p>When the time comes, my D and I will probably go to Kleinfeld’s. However, I can’t see spending $$$ in 90 minutes. We will have to sleep on it and then go back, unless it has a stunning factor and a reasonable price tag.</p>
<p>I hope my kids choose small destination weddings so we can have a family trip with the same budget!</p>
<p>I don’t want to appear shallow, but his thread is a lot more fun than the Haiti thread.</p>
<p>I told my boys it would be OK w/me if they elope! And then we’d have a gigantic party afterward.</p>
<p>I’m sort of a control freak, plus I’m pretty frugal, so I’m really afraid of how I’ll be as a mother of the bride. My Ds will be drugging my food.</p>
<p>And as for mother of the groom…Son’s GF’s brother just got married and Son was invited to all the festivities. It was a very modest low budget affair. I can see me being a lot more comfortable with a future DIL who planned modest/lw budget than with a pull out all the stops girl.</p>
<p>Yes, Sybbie, I admired Sara helping another bride purchase her (Saras) dream dress. She even went to Joan and negotiated a discounted price. I dont understand why someone would want that dress - everyone at the ceremony will be whispering and calling the gown Saras dress not the brides dress. I think this was the bride whose friends and family had to help her purchase the dress because it was sooooooooo over her budget. </p>
<p>Did anyone see the episode where the grooms came to help the brides pick out their dress? And the episode where Keisha had a bride who had donated a kidney to her fiancé? </p>
<p>I get the feeling that Kleinfelds market is for the bride who is looking to spend at least $3000. They have dresses in the $1000 range but probably not many - unless you purchase an off the rack as is dress. The $1000 and under dresses are ones found at the local gown and bridal shops.</p>
<p>Youdontsay and zoosermom—YES it is jerky!!!</p>
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<p>Amazingly, VeryHappy, none of my 5 siblings or I even knew about this until my mother’s youngest sister told me about 10 years ago. My cousin, the in utero baby at my aunt’s weddding, didn’t know about the wedding hand-over either. My mother never had discussed it with us, nor bears any ill will then or now towards her sister. As I said, she is a saint. And I have never really questioned her much about this. The dress question is an interesting one, I think I will ask her if the guests ever commented!</p>
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<p>Do you mean the episode where one of the grooms was waaay more interested in the dresses than the bride was, and had very fixed fashion ideas? My gaydar was pinging loud enough to wake the dog. </p>
<p>I think almost all females have a fascination with wedding dresses. Anyone remember the Friends episode where all the girls brought home wedding gowns and lounged around the apartment in them, though only Monica was actually engaged? I’d love to spend a few hours at Kleinfeld’s trying stuff on, everything from the stripper fairy model to some gigantic Cinderella poofy thing (not that I’d have a prayer of fitting into a sample size).</p>
<p>I was married the year following the Charles/Diana wedding. Just about every wedding dress our there had gigantic, puffy shoulders and huge ruffles everywhere. I have NEVER been a ruffle type. I found an extremely tailored dress that was a bit odd, but perfect for me. I still love it.</p>
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<p>Well, it appears that all the brides seem to be able to try on dresses that fit them, more or less. I think there are giant satin “laces” up and down the back, so “bigger girls” don’t have to have the two sides meet in the back. Also, for smaller girls, they have giant clothespins, to pin the two sides of the back together.</p>
<p>But what about the length? Any dress I put on would absolutely be at least six inches too long. Do they put the girls in giant platform shoes? ;)</p>
<p>^^^I think those “clothespins” look like jumper cable clamps. :D</p>
<p>^^^^agree</p>
<p>Yes, MommaJ that was the episode and we have the same radar. Saw the Friends wedding dress episode ----cute.</p>
<p>VeryHappy, they handle the length problem by having the shorter (vertically challenged) brides stand on platforms.</p>
<p>According to my sources the brides on Kleinfelds do not get anything for their participation save for face time on television. I do not know about the consultants. I can’t imagine that they give money to Kleinfelds’ owners. They are being given millions of dollars in free advertising.</p>
<p>I love the show as well. I also can’t imagine anyone spending $10,000 on a dress and I shop… a lot.</p>
<p>My favorite wedding story: My parents’ dear friend’s son was engaged to a lovely young woman whose family was planning a rather large wedding. Five months prior to the wedding the father of the groom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and wasn’t going to make it to the wedding. The bride and her parents took control. They held the ceremony in the hospitol room. The bride wore her gown (a hurry up and alter). The father died two days later. On the “original” wedding day they held a reception with pictures and home video of the ceremony. There wasn’t a dry eye in the house.</p>
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<p>What a wonderful story!</p>
<p>Sorry I’m bumping this…I always forget to go to Parent Cafe and read…and I love this show too. (Actually my youngest daughter is a huge fan and so she has gotten me into it as well!)</p>
<p>I bought my dress at Kleinfelds back when it was in Brooklyn 25 years ago. At the time, wasn’t it considered a discount place? I remember that I spent $1,000 on the dress, and some of my co-workers told me that I was being ridiculously extravagant and that they would never spend so much on a dress. (I was also working in the midwest at the time, and I think standards were, and probably are, different there.) It is amazing to me that people go there and try on dozens of dresses and don’t find what they want, but I am thrilled to see that the store now carries a range of sizes, so that if you’re not a size eight (which I never was), you don’t have to hold your breath when getting into the dress!</p>
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<p>Well, I’m 5 feet tall and 108 pounds. If I stood on a platform, I’d be, let’s say, 5 feet 6 inches tall, but still 108 pounds. I’d look incredibly tall and slim, and I’m sure anything I put on my body would look fantastic!!</p>
<p>I am sure you do look fantastic, VeryHappy! But you could get 6" platform shoes to replicate that look (and a walking cast for later).</p>
<p>Does anyone remember the episode where the mother, who was southern, said that if they don’t like a gown, they call it “lovely”. That’s the first time I’ve heard lovely used for anythying but lovely!</p>