I think there are ways to bring students back (with varying degrees of safety), but not a single option I’ve read about–and I’ve been following this thread and reading voraciously on the topic–has satisfactorily addressed the loss of the overall social experience.
If my rising freshman goes to college, doesn’t meet people, doesn’t integrate, doesn’t hit it off with her roommate but has limited opportunities to engage with others, it will be a rough start to college. Even if she likes her classes, if she can’t build relaitonships, she will be unhappy and lonely. And transitioning to college can be a lonely and challenging time under the best of circumstances. Losing students the following year (who may feel that they tried but failed to integrate on their campus) are at risk for leaving the next year.
Not that her university is asking me, but if I could weigh in, I’d tell them that I would rather pay for an online experience for the semester (or even the year) and have her start college on the right foot. If they can do that in the Fall, great–our family is all in. If not, I recognize that we’re paying for the credential and we’ll make the most of distance learning, we’ll support her in engaging in meaningful activities (including, perhaps, connecting with other local students from her University), and we’ll eagerly return in January or even fall of 2021.
For the parents (or students) who are saying they’ll leave if school is online for another semester, I would suggest that while that might be their first (emotional) response, upon reflection, cooler heads might prevail. No college–no matter what they tell us–can make next year what we all hoped it would be. So if students leave, they go…where? Do…what, exactly? Only to reapply later, perhaps losing their merit money, not to mention their momentum? Taking a gap year might make sense for many and I appreciate that the high costs of college make it a bitter pill to swallow to shell out tens of thousands of dollars for a limited experience, but I don’t see a more appealing alternative. Colleges offer something we all agreed was worth paying for (which is why we registered our kids to attend).
I might feel differently if some colleges were offering an amazing, in-person experience; in that case there would be competition and if my D’s school lagged other universities, we’d explore our options. But in this case, none of the options are appealing. Even the colleges who are firmly planning to bring students back are doing so with lots of caveats and asterisks. Every college is in the same boat, dealing with sub-optimal circumstances (to put it mildly) and there’s nothing they can do to change it.