<p>I have a relative with CS/EE undergraduate and graduate degrees from some of the best public universities in California. He’s worked at a really wonderful company that is going gangbusters right now but he’s essentially been a house dad for the last ten years. And it’s not due to his intelligence - he’s a very smart guy. It’s due to the ability to get along with others in a team - essentially personality stuff.</p>
<p>I had the same problems that you did when I was in my 20s. But took active steps to make them past problems. Public speaking clubs shouldn’t be that hard to find. Going back to school should be an option - if only part-time. You can learn so much for free even with all of the online free college content online these days.</p>
<p>BTW, my relative had a nice inheritance so that he can live well without working. But work frequently defines a man (and woman) and it has to be a blow to his self-esteem. Do you have any kind of personal support system available?</p>