No matter what you pursue in life, you will have to talk to people.
Time to get comfortable……
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unless I choose to be like Holden Caulfield and hope to become a deaf-mute (allusion to my favorite literary work!! love JD Salinger!! <3)
(I was being sarcastic.)
yay! (maybe my referral to ACCES-VR isn’t really a bad thing, and I should try it because it wants to set me up for success??-)
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Yes.
well i have to now reach out to the appropriate person who sent the referral so hopefully I could update this thread w/it too!
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It is also very common for parents to be involved with the process when it comes to finding schools that have a strong support network.
I will also say that the Disability offices at colleges tend to be hands-off with prospective students until AFTER the student is accepted. These offices are typically understaffed and very busy. I would think they would give some idea of support and what is needed for accommodations but some schools will not talk to you at all until after you are accepted.
The biggest problem most kids have is picking schools and then looking to see what they offer for students who learn differently. You really should be looking the other way around - find schools that have a strong support system first.
Can you live in a dorm? Do you need additional support in the dorm setting? These are very important questions to think about. My S22 was accepted into very selective schools but at the end of the day I knew he would not do well in a traditional dorm so he landed at a not so selective school but it did have strong support programs.
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100%
Maybe/maybe not…I don’t really know how I feel about being in a dorm. My parents also are going to decide once I get all my acceptance(s) for me if they think I should/should not.
But dorming is something that sounds like a great experience but also I don’t know how I would do in it, either.
Ohhh…
Well, I am left to:
(a): Hope that the schools on my list actually have good Disability services/offices or that they’re good because I’ve already sent in some applications.
(b): email colleges ASAP and ask-
This is what I took the most out of your post. Yes.
Can you commute from your home to any of these colleges…your list posted above?
- NYU
- Northeastern
- Clemson
- North Carolina State University
- Binghamton University
- Stony Brook University
- SUNY University at Buffalo
- Rochester Institute of Technology
- CUNY Hunter
- CUNY Baruch
- Wellesley
- George Washington University
Yes. NYU, Hunter, Baruch (all within 45mn-1h30mn, can take LIRR and subway)
*Hunter is the closest, then Baruch, then NYU
Binghamton - 3h30mn on a good traffic flow
RIT - 5h50mn (on a good day)
Stony Brook - 50mn to 1h30mn on a good day (can take LIRR)
SUNY UB (would probably dorm) - 6h-8h (depending on day)
but yeah…so kind of!
Those are all long commutes, in my opinion. Nothing closer?
Nope!
but if I wanted to take some recs:
~ Adelphi: 7mn
~ Hofstra: 16mn
~ Marist: 2h
Are these two not affordable? If they are affordable and you are allowed to commute, I would look into both.
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They are!
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ETA: but I don’t want to go to them because they are so close…and they’re like last resorts :]
I’ve taken Engineering/Robotics courses, Journalism/Creative Writing classes at Hofstra. Adelphi–really close–and I ran the NPC (not sharing results of that, but I can afford them both) and Adelphi is nice and I can take the LIRR there! (one stop from my house)
Here is a good website: 7 things to know about college disability services
My son got a lot of support in college, but keep in mind that you will have to talk to each professor, every semester, and give him or her a letter stating what accommodations you’re seeking. My son was assigned a note taker (although he didn’t use that service long) and was allowed to take exams in a quiet room at the office for students with disabilities. They also had a lounge he could spend time in whenever he needed a break - they even had free snacks. 
He found professors to be very understanding. One time, he did badly on a test and was granted his request to retake the test.
He attended a huge school (UT-Austin) and a small one in Maine, and we were honestly happy with the help he got from both universities. His adviser in Maine was head of the math department and she was so kind. She shared that she had been diagnosed with a mental illness as a teenager, so she “got it.” She asked the department secretary to help my son register for classes. And one of his professors told him that he has quite a few requests every semester for accommodations, so you are certainly not alone. Keep in mind that universities want their students to succeed!
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They might be the best choices. You don’t have to do as much adjusting, and might not need to live in a dorm. And they are so close to home and your support systems, they might actually be the best choices…if affordable.
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I should add that your physical and mental health are paramount concerns. It’s not an admission of weakness to go to school close to home. Several of my son’s “superstar” friends, as well as himself, came back to Maine after one year away at top universities.
We should have brought our son home as soon as he was diagnosed with a serious mental health issue as a college freshman, but we were in denial, to be honest. He’d always been a top student and athlete, and we were just sure he would recover quickly. Nope…
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Thank you! I’ve read this article before, but I actually hadn’t read it in like a little under a year- so it was nice to read again.
This sounds great! Thank you for sharing. I know one of the schools on my list (NYU) just recently opened the Bobst Library sensory room last year and it is on my “to-check out” list (need to check that out next week, actually…)
this is also a nice little story, thanks for sharing (again!)
this makes me really really excited to hear.
I mean…my therapist’s office is like 8-12 mn away from my house!
They are, I ran the NPC on them a while back.
I think my parents are afraid to send me far away because what happens if I do have a mental health crisis like I did earlier this year? What will I do? What happens if…(not filling that in)? How will I react to the smallest of things? (tbh, probably not well) but…yeah…so it depends on everything… >.<
Thank you for both of those posts.
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TBH, it might be smart to start out near home. You could go one year, and if that goes well, transfer to another college farther away. Set yourself up to succeed! It’s not a race or a competition. You’re preparing for a long life ahead.
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My parents say this all the time!
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