Just stopping by to comment that Oberlin has a “high wall" between the Con and other students. They are very open about this. Con has excellent opportunities but very limited for non-Con students.
Agree Skidmore has a strong arts flavor and if willing to bend on geography then St Olaf and Lawrence University will be great options from both an admission and financial perspective. They also both benefit from having a very large faction of the student body involved in music so it’s easy to find similarly passionate classmates in many majors. Our S24 who applied as a violin BA found that he loved how that felt on campus.