This post is in the music majors forum. I’m sure folks with experience in music both conservatory and not will chime in.
Yale offers a BA in music, and has tons of opportunities for every kind of performance imaginable. A reach but a maybe.
Tufts is another option. So is Ithaca, or Oberlin or Bard or Case Western.
There are a lot of schools in the northeast with strong music programs for both performance and BA in music options. I see you have some of these on your list already! So, I agree with you!!
Check The Colleges That Change Lives lists. Some of them would work.