Second-Guessing College Decisions, Need Help!

<p>Hi all, I’m a very recent high school graduate who is set to attend Skidmore College (of upstate NY) in the fall. I visited there and really enjoyed it, leading me to apply early decision. But soon after that, I began to doubt my first impression and wonder if I might have settled on a school that won’t challenge me as much as I had hoped. </p>

<p>I’m hoping that all of you highly experienced college experts might be able to glance at my stats and maybe tell me if I’ve settled on a school that was perhaps not the best choice? I’d hate to feel tied to a school just because of one possibly rash decision, and if I need to, I can transfer.</p>

<p>Here are my stats:</p>

<p>IB DIPLOMA CANDIDATE
GPA - 3.59
CLASS RANK - n/a
SATs
Verbal: 800
Math: 590
Writing: 790</p>

<p>(And some additional information) :
Bryn Mawr Award for Achievements in Writing
published author
interests in literature, theatre and music</p>

<p>Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!</p>

<p>You are suffering from a very common case of “buyers remorse.” Not, of course, in the sense that you’re buying anything (although sometimes college tuition looks like you’re buying something big), but rather that you aren’t sure if the decision you made was the right one. You’re probably wondering if may be you didn’t explore all of your options. To be perfectly honest, there are probably more choices that would have suited your academic interests. But that doesn’t mean the choice you made is the wrong one. Most people would be happy at three, four, or even five schools. However, we all have to decide on one, so sometimes the process can be overwhelming. My advice to you is to concentrate on making Skidmore everything you want it to be. Don’t dwell on the other schools that you could have gone to, remember the traits that first brought you there and made you want to apply. If you go to school in the fall with a bad attitude, it will ruin your precious college years.</p>

<p>Bellhop,</p>

<p>I think you’re suffering from “What If” syndrome – i.e. What if you could have gotten into a better school?</p>

<p>You chose Skidmore for a reason, and that’s where you’re headed. Concentrate on the positive aspects of Skidmore instead of wondering whether you could have done better. </p>

<p>I see that you’re strong in writing. Skidmore has an awesome writing program in the summer. I’m sure students get involved with that, either by taking master classes with famous writers or by helping to run it. It would be a wonderful opportunity for you.</p>

<p>Oops. Cross posted with Halopeno. The dual posts should reinforce the same message: embrace Skidmore!</p>

<p>You know the phrase “college is what you make of it.” Well, at this point, you should really embrace that truism.</p>

<p>You are obviously a talented person. It could be that you will be an incredible standout at Skidmore. Use that position to your advantage. Be really involved. If you are an extrovert, be really extroverted and get involved in a lot of things. If you are more introverted, develop contacts in a more one-on-one fashion, but reach out right away to people who can help you, namely professors.</p>

<p>Even if a year at Skidmore shows you that you chose wrong, don’t start out assuming that this will happen. Embrace your choice, try to love it, and if you can’t later you can try to transfer (after applying most likely in your second year). But you shouldn’t transfer to just any school that you choose for the sake of its being different. You should choose another school 'cause you’re sure that’s what you want.</p>

<p>My brother attendend Skidmore, and he loved it. Sure, maybe you could’ve gotten in somewhere “better” with your stats…but those schools may not have been better for you. I agree with the posters who said you need to look at the positives, and head into your freshman year with an open mind. You will certainly have a miserable freshman year if you go around hating your college. If you go into school enthusiastic, odds are you’ll love it. And if you don’t, there are other options, of course…but don’t worry about those until you need to.</p>

<p>Just a quick addition. I wrote what I did above without knowing so much about Skidmore. I did some quick research on it, and I must say, I fail to see what a school of that premier caliber couldn’t offer just about any outstanding student. The only things I could think of were: stylistic fit (maybe now you want to be in a city, for instance) or prestige (maybe you think you should have tried for Ivy League or something).</p>

<p>As far as stylistic fit goes, that’ll be for you to decide when you are there. But do be open-minded as we have talked about.</p>

<p>As far as prestige goes, prestige really cuts several ways. For some, it may help them get that first job they covet (maybe like I-banking). For others, it’s a security blanket they carry around their whole lives – a kind of resting on laurels which can be anything from good (pride in achievement) to incredibly limiting (such as with people who derive their total sense of worth from it, as happened with a high school friend who went to Princeton and who has lived there in her mind for the years following). For others, it becomes merely a sign of potential they never really live up to (“Wow, but he’s a Stanford grad; I can’t believe he’s decided to do…”). For some its an affiliation with presumed excellence that they are proud of their whole lives. </p>

<p>In the best case, in my opinion, the reverence with which their prestigious university/college is held is met in their own minds with their own particular experience. For example, someone goes to X prestigious law school and really enjoyed their experience and when they encounter other people who say “Wow, that’s a great law school,” they beam with pride simply because they recall what a great experience going there was and how it has put them in touch with incredible people (this was just an example and is hard to imagine most people feeling about law school, I’ll admit). Maybe what I am aiming for here is a description between an outer name-brand kind of prestige vs. an inner sense of quality kind of prestige.</p>

<p>And prestige has a bias in favor of large research universities in many ways, anyway.</p>

<p>My guess is you’ll be able to have the kind of experience at a place like Skidmore that will give you that confidence (inner sense of prestige) that you got a first-rate education. And you’ll probably remember your times there with great fondness and pride. This is much, much more important than any sense of outward prestige, particularly five or ten years out of college when you are in the real world where people care more about who you are than where you went to college. If you do really well at Skidmore and want to move on to capture that kind of “outer prestige” in grad school, though, you’ll be well-placed to do so.</p>

<p>Enjoy. Enjoy Skidmore. I would wager some good money with you that in 8 months time you’ll wonder what you were ever thinking writing this post. And if I am wrong, reevaluate at that point.</p>