<p>One of the most delicious things about having the acceptances roll in is that the admissions shoe instantly moves to the other foot. Now instead of your kid having to plead with the schools and try so hard to demonstrate his/her excellence and sincere “interest,” it’s now the schools’ turn to grovel, to recruit your kid, to show how wonderful they are, to demonstrate <em>their</em> “interest.” Instead of your kid competing with the other kids for a spot at the college, the college is now competing with the other colleges to land your kid and keep their yield up.</p>
<p>Knitmom,
Thank you for starting this thread. I am relieved to see quite a few of us parents finding we are more fretful about admission decisions than our children! I am doing my best to not ask DD if she has received any e-mails from colleges. She appears quite blase about the whole thing. She has been accepted at her safely, but hasn’t heard from anywhere else. The kids talking about ‘likely letter’ or e-mail stuff on this site has been driving me nuts!</p>
<p>Oh, and in terms of missing our D, I was shopping in a mega store for the NHS dinner and stopped at the wrapping paper display, thinking I’d buy some graduation paper early to have on hand. I stood there and stood there, unable to make a decision, the whole time feeling sadder and sadder. I finally gave it up and Like Scarlett O’Hara, I said to myself , “I’ll decide this another day!”</p>
<p>It is so good to see I’m not alone in all of the various moods and obsessions that come along with this process! The “likely letter” stuff has bothered me, too, since she has received nothing like that. Just silence.</p>
<p>As for thinking about graduation itself and all the “lasts” that come with it, I have been explaining to D since she was a freshman that I am likely to be a weepy mess at commencement. (When S finishes in 2 yrs, the tears will be of relief, but that’s a story for another day! LOL)</p>
<p>I am so nervous. My D on the other hand seems to be playing it cool. She is much more involved in her HS drama. Me, I know too much and it’s killing me.</p>
<p>knitmom: you are not alone. My son has EA to his first choice school, but we are still anxiously awaiting the final FA package, which will determine if he can go. We probably won’t get it until RD decisions go out, and not by email either. The snail mail notice of his EA admission came a full week after the early notification email. I, too, go to sleep thinking about FA, wondering if we will be ecstatic or miserable after the letter comes. His school, Stanford, has enhanced their FA, but we are on a cusp and don’t know if we will be required to pay full or no tuition, or something in between. If we have to pay full tuition, it will be practically impossible to finance. Plus, my husband and I will be 65 and retiring after my son graduates, so that complicates matters even more.</p>
<p>Neither my husband or son wants to talk about this anymore, so here I am, talking to people I don’t know on the other side of a machine. Better to share our angst with people who also want to vent.</p>
<p>Glad I found you all, may I join in too? We are anxiously awaiting to hear if son receives appt to the Coast Guard Academy. He seems most even-keeled of all, guess I am doing all the worrying & stressing for him. No one (friends & family) really understands unless they’ve been thru the ordeal, and even then they tend to brush off your fretful concerns. I feel a kinship here!</p>
<p>even-keeled . . . Coast Guard <g>
We have to laugh when we can! </g></p>
<p>Glad we can all share the angst! When does he expect to hear, zfam?</p>
<p>thought I’d slip that in portside, knitmom(tks for noticing;-)…heck at this a chuckle is nice. We hope to hear by mid-Apr. I feel so out-of-the-loop, the service academies seem to be on such a different track than “regular” college. We went thru that process last year with oldest daughter. But it’s ok,in the end, all parents share the same anxieties and concerns.</p>
<p>I am no longer allowed to talk about anything (and I mean, anything) college-related to S, so H has been kind enough to listen to my angst and speculations. S is so busy with ECs and academics (and the Wii Brawl) that he seems detached from the whole thing. </p>
<p>He was deferred ED, so you figure we have now mastered the waiting game (I wish)! All I keep thinking - this will be over in about two weeks. Oh yeah, I am fully aware of the next phase, too. I’ll deal with it then. For now, Haagen-Dazs is providing a great deal of comfort.</p>
<p>After two kids taking me through the journey you all are now “enjoying” with reaches and mega-reaches, notifications April 1, etc. D3 learned from the proces, chose an LAC type of school, just one, with rolling admissions, got in with merit in the fall.</p>
<p>Then she thought maybe she would apply to one state U in case the small school did not work out to her fancy by spring, but the state U takes apps quite late (March due date) so D3 had to decide by March 1 whether or not to even apply. We received LAC finaid package, reviewed the numbers, no app to state U, she is going to to one school she applied to! Wow, how much easier than her sisters journey! I am reveling in the simplicity…but I am not trying to rub it in if you are stressed and waiting. D3 watched the other two go through this and decided “no thanks!” I guess she learned from CC too! I could not have done this without CC</p>
<p>How true! It seems like knowing we’re in the home stretch should make it easier . . . why doesn’t it work that way?</p>
<h1>1 son is happily at UM (his first choice, now a first term junior). Financially it was a bit of a reach because we were OOS and I am a single mom with no help from custodial dad. He loves it there. He was an early admit into the business program, joined a frat - loves everything about it.</h1>
<h1>2 - accepted at UPitt and Clemson, both honors programs, Carnegie Mellon and Rochester. Waiting to hear from UM (he applied very late - 12/5/2007), Emory and Duke. Kicker is he <strong>may</strong> want to swim in college. Money will matter. In a big way. He has already ruled out Case and Westminster (his safeties).</h1>
<p>Between waiting to hear from the three above and waiting to hear on the money from CM and Rochester…SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEE I am going crazy!</p>
<p>Can I ask when you heard from Rochester? We haven’t heard a word yet.</p>
<p>We heard informally - from a coach. But nothing formal yet. FYI, if you look at the Rochester threads, it looks like they started mailing latter part of first week in March. I figure my son’s last name begins with a W so probably will be in the last mailings.</p>
<p>Until I see it in writing…</p>
<p>Glad to hear I’m not the only one going crazy waiting – for accept/reject letters. My D is doing much better than me, focussing on social life and senior year stuff. It was much easier with first 2 sons who did not qualify for merit aid. At least we knew the schools would be on a close-to-even footing financially. And it’s definitely a last kid thing. A stage in your life is ending. It would be so great to be able to see into the future to know if that extra money and distance for the dream school would be worth it in happiness and academic challenge. What alot of stress. Maybe after this is all over I can get a life again.</p>
<p>“Maybe after this is all over I can get a life again.” </p>
<p>I think we’re all feeling a little like that right now, even if it isn’t our last kid! This has turned in to quite the short-term obsession. I keep reminding myself that all will be revealed in the next couple of weeks, and then won’t it feel strange? Good-strange, I hope . . .</p>
<p>Yeah, folks. All the long time CC’ers will tell you the obsession doesn’t necessarily go away. LOL.</p>
<p>Waiting with all of you.</p>
<p>What? I have been so addicted to this site and planned on breaking the addiction April 1st. Mythmom, are you saying I might have a tough time doing that? This is distressing, I have so many other things I should be doing. This morning I even considered waking up an hour or so before the rest of the house just so I could CC in peace 
I get really tired of “mom are you on cc again?”</p>
<p>Yup. That’s what I’m saying. And there are legions who would corroborate this.</p>
<p>I better get a second job.</p>