sending care packages to soldiers

<p>My daughter has a very close friend leaving for Afghanistan shortly. I know she would like to keep in close contact as well as send mail and an occasional care package. How exactly does that work? How long does it take for mail and packages to arrive and the soldier to receive them?</p>

<p>When sending a care package, what is and is not allowed to be sent? Any suggestions as to what would be the best things to send? I was thinking along the lines of silly things-comics, silly putty, goofy glasses, etc… I also would think that candy would be easy to send.</p>

<p>Any suggestions would be much appreciated.</p>

<p>I sent one to the son of a close friend. I picked up a flat rate box from the post office and loaded it up. I sent some fun items: comics, etc. I sent some items that he might find useful: bandaids (Disney :)), instant toothbrushes (no toothpaste, water needed), heating packs to slip in shoes, etc. I did send some food stuff, some junk and some a bit more nutritional. Look for unique items in sporting goods stores and aisles - and the dollar section at Target.</p>

<p>USPS info: [USPS</a> - Supporting Our Troops](<a href=“http://www.usps.com/supportingourtroops/welcome.htm]USPS”>http://www.usps.com/supportingourtroops/welcome.htm)</p>

<p>Also for ideas: <a href=“http://operationmilitarypride.org/packages.html[/url]”>http://operationmilitarypride.org/packages.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>I belong to a women’s group that sends goodies to a platoon about every 6 weeks. Here’s a link to the Adopt A Platoon website:</p>

<p><a href=“http://adoptaplatoon.org/site/[/url]”>AdoptaPlatoon;

<p>On the left side, under “AAP Links,” click on “Care Package Ideas.”</p>

<p>snowball, try PM’ing CC poster 1sokkermom. Her S is currently serving in Iraq. She could prob. give you great suggestions.</p>

<p>Thanks for the links and suggestions. I will pass them along to my daughter.</p>

<p>Snowball, </p>

<p>From my own experiences, here are the things the folks “in theater” appreciate the most:</p>

<ul>
<li>Baby wipes. Yep, baby wipes. Comes in VERY handy when you’re on patrol or unable to shower for a few days. The Whole dang part of that world seems so DIRTY and dusty–Baby wipes are a must!</li>
<li>Powder drink mix, single serving (if you can find it), preferably GatorAid or some other sports drink. You live your life carrying bottles of water over there, flavoring them is a real boost to morale.</li>
<li>Hard candy. Doesn’t get crushed in the mail delivery, won’t melt into the rest of the goodies in the package. Pima sent me a box of Blow-Pops when I was there. Brought back some great memories of my favorite candy from my youth, plenty in the box to make all the troops I commanded love seeing me because I gave the majority of them out to them.<br></li>
<li>Beef jerky. Troops can’t enough of it. And it will survive the shipping.</li>
<li>Sunscreen. Almost as important as the baby wipes. Plain, ordinary sun-screen, not the foo-fooey suntan lotion that will make them smell like a coconut for blocks around and get curious looks from the natives.</li>
<li>Pre-paid Phone cards. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU COULD SEND! I can’t tell you all enough about this, if any of you are ever interested in sending something to the troops, it ain’t the size of the package thats important, as long as there is a phone card in it. Find out what kind of access they have to phone lines, and start sending 'em. And then send some more. NOTHING (and I mean NOTHING) lifts the spirits up while deployed like hearing the voices of your loved ones. The only thing that kept me sane while I was there.</li>
<li>Something that will remind them of home. A photo of your daughter for her friend, hanging out at the places they used to hang out at. A ticket stub from a concert they both wanted to go to. Anything that reminds them that someone here misses them while they are there.</li>
<li>Something to look forward to when they get back. An itinerary of a road trip they plan to take when he returns. McDonalds gift certificates (with a promise for a trip to Mickey-Ds the day after he returns), tickets to the ball game. ANYTHING, as long as it gives him something to look forward to that his life will return to normal when he returns.</li>
<li>Something to kill the time. A deck of playing cards (no pictures of naked ladies allowed on them!); a good book, a DVD (someone there ALWAYS has a portable DVD player he can borrow if he doesn’t have one. Better yet, if he doesn’t have that or a laptop that plays DVDs, get a bunch of you to chip in and get him a portable player.), a frisbee, or a hacky-sack, or a football. Something he can do with his buds to pass the time. (Story time. While I was in Baghdad, in one of the packages Pima sent was a toy Superball (the kind that bounces really high). She thought it was a great gag gift. To me, it became my security blanket and way to relieve stress. Tough day, long night, there I would be, sitting in one of Saddam’s former palaces in an office with 25 foot ceilings, marble and gold trim covering every wall and floor, bathroom with gold plated fixtures,the works. Well, I would be sitting there, or pacing while on the radio or phone, throwing that Dang Ball across the room, off of three walls, and catch it when it got back. My own private game of “catch”, and something that became something of a joke as this Dang Ball would sometimes come flying out of my office and the down the hall, down the marble steps and bounce off of everything and everybody! Showed the troops the old man was sometimes a “bit-off”, but always human. Showed me how again how the little pleasures in life or reminders of childhood and home were there to help me keep my sanity.)</li>
<li>I’ll say it again, something that reminds him that someone home is thinking of him.</li>
</ul>

<p>Things to avoid:

  • Alcohol, or anything with alcohol (like brandy filled chocolates). Big No-No over there, directly against General Order #1 (No alcohol allowed).
  • Pornography. Not that I think your daughter would send him anything like that, but she has to remember to the folks over there living in that country, mags like Maxim, FHM, and the Swimsuit Edition of Sports Illustrated is considered porn. Another bad No-No.
    -Anything that would get crushed, or melt, or damaged during shipping. Love your cookies, Mom. But they don’t just taste the same when all I have is one big pile of crumbs (true story, repeated a million times by almost everyone over there). And the Hershey bar you sent? Let’s just say the rest of the stuff in the box arrived a little “messy”. Smelled great, but a little “messy”.
  • News about something that isn’t really that important to them over there, but is more frustrating that they can’t be with you to help you handle it. Nothing worse than constant reminders that they aren’t there to help out when life’s minor emergencies happen (and they ALWAYS do). Washing machine on the fritz? What can he do about it over there except be miserable thinking no one back home can handle it, and he is remiss in his duty to his family because of his duty to his country. There’s a phone book, find the repair man on your own and stop adding to HIS worries. (Thank you Pima for always doing this. I can’t tell you the number of troops I’ve had to counsel, listen to, hug, and just be there for as they needed someone to vent to because they thought their home life was being detroyed in their absence. Thank goodness for that Dang Ball!)</p>

<p>Just remember, he’ll be there for a year (I’m guessing). It may be getting DAAANNNNG HOT real soon over there, so something for that (like the sunscreen and baby wipes) is appropriate now. But Winter? It gets DAAANNNG COLD! Nothing better than hot cocoa mix and a good sweatshirt or “blankey from home”. </p>

<p>Shipping usually takes a week or two to get to him, depending on just how “forward” his location is from the main hubs of Bahgram and Kandahar. Plan you holiday treats early enough so they arrive there on time. Nothing stinks more than getting Halloween stuff in mid-December, and your Xmas gifts on President’s Day. </p>

<p>PM me (or better yet Pima (goes by BulletandPima), who lived through this for 20+ years, about 5+ total of me gone if you add all the deployment time together) if you want more ideas.</p>

<p>Bottom Line: send ANYTHING, and OFTEN. This is the perfect example of “it’s the thought that counts”. Nothing can kill a person’s morale over there more than a bunch of days in a row of “Mail call! Nothing for you.” Let them know they are missed, and loved.</p>

<p>Bullet- Thank you for the suggestions and taking the time to respond. This is my daughter’s first experience with a friend in the military and I can tell you she is not handling his deployment well. He is one of her best friends and while we all knew the time would come, I guess it was easier for her to ignore it, as until recently he was stationed near home and was home many weekends. I am hoping sending him mail and care packages might make my daughter feel better as well as the soldier.</p>

<p>I know he has a laptop, but I do not know if he can or will take it with him. If there are things he is allowed to take with him you can be sure his mother will make sure he has it. She will have 2 boys gone at the same time, and this is not a military family. My daughter’s friend has always planned to join the Army, the other son made the decision after college graduation. I can not imagine how she feels, but I know my stomach is in knots. </p>

<p>I think I will send him silly greeting cards every so often; while I am not close to him, I feel a need to do something.</p>

<p>A wonderful thought on your part, snowball, about the greeting cards. Like I said, nothing better to their day than, “Mail call! You got a letter”.<br>
Just remind your daughter that he most likely he will have pretty regular access to e-mail while over there. Another gift from heaven for those over there.</p>

<p>Please let your daughter’s friend’s mom and rest of his family know that we are thinking of her sons, and praying with her for their safe return. </p>

<p>I grew up knowing that I always wanted to serve my country. I just never knew how much I was asking of my loving wife, Pima, and my parents as I went off to war, often. I could NEVER thank Pima enough for putting up with it, and being there everytime I returned with a loving kiss and a hug. Only part of me realized at the time that the tears she was crying each time were tears of thanks to the All-mighty that I returned home to her safely, mixed in with tears of joy. For what I put her through, again I could never say to her the words to express how sorry I am for what she went through, and the thanks she will always have from me for her strength in raising our family on her own during my frequent absences. As my own son takes steps to follow me into the service of this country, I am only just beginning to understand what it means to be the one of the ones “left behind”. </p>

<p>Tell your daughter’s friend “G@d Speed”, and his mom, “you are also in our thoughts and in our hearts, daily.”</p>

<p>Bullet, I meant to add my thanks to you for your service to our country. I will pass along your well wishes; that is assuming I can speak to the mom without crying. I cried during high school graduation when it was announced he would be heading to West Point, even though I knew he was going and it was going to be announced at graduation. What can I say, I cry more for happy occasions than sad, don’t know exactly why.</p>

<p>snowball, I don’t know if you know any teachers in the younger grades in your district, but classes here often “adopt” a service-person and their unit for the year, writing letters and making cards in the computer lab. It can be a fun project for a younger class to connect to one of the district’s shining grads and funny for the troops over there to read.</p>

<p>I’m told that any cheeses and meats gift packages like the ones you’d get at a Cracker Barrel store are greatly appreciated. And they don’t need refrigeration .</p>

<p>On a sobering note - I wondered whether or not to provide a bit of additional information about the package I sent to my son’s friend. But I do think it’s worth mentioning.</p>

<p>A few days after I mailed the package, my friend called. Her son was injured. The army flew her son from Iraq to Germany, he had surgery in Germany with more surgery to follow in D.C. She and her husband flew to D.C. to meet him when he arrived. After a brief time in D.C. he landed in San Antonio for rehab and then some time at home. He was the lucky one in his unit as he was furthest from the explosive device. He returned to Iraq where he has been the past year. The army plans to fly him home any day now and he’ll be stationed in the U.S. for a bit. His mom waits on pins and needles til she receives word that he’s actually on his way. </p>

<p>My care package arrived back to me a month or two after it was sent. I gave it to his mom and she hand delivered it to her son in the hospital (or rehab). I send care packages now with a bit more thought behind them - not so much in what I put in the package: more thought into the sacrifice made by troops and their families.</p>

<p>I participate in anysoldier.com and send packages through this program. There are requests from coordinators, listing specifically what they need. Your D could look on there (many, many requests from Afghanistan). It is really sad what the military doesn’t have that they need, and many don’t get ANY mail or packages from home.</p>

<p>Here is the link to the list of requests:
[Any</a> Soldier Inc. … Where to Send](<a href=“http://www.anysoldier.com/WhereToSend/]Any”>Any Soldier Inc. ... Where to Send      )</p>

<p>If she just reads through a few of the posts, she’ll get a better idea of their lives there. Many also post photos of their living conditions and respond about what they really liked in theri boxes from anysoldier.com.</p>

<p>She can use the larger size, flat-rate priority mail boxes from the post office. I think it’s about $13 to send. You have to fill out a white customs form, listing all contents. It only take a week or two to get there.</p>

<p>I’ve taken up collections at synagogue and sent dozens of boxes to troops abroad.</p>

<p>You don’t need flat rate boxes…too small. You will only be paying to ship to CA or NY depending on the APO.</p>

<p>I’ve sent to and gotten all my info from this website:
anysoldier.com</p>