<p>Throughout high school my tenure in academia I was caught up in my own little problems. I suffered a major depressive relapse in high school and in the middle of college. This is co-morbid with my cyclical seasonal bipolar (SAD) that pops up at the end of fall and throughout winter. </p>
<p>I have never been a relationship due to this. I actually prefer solitude and not have to worry about other peoples problems when I need to take care of me. However, my roommate thinks I’m gay and some of my family members do as well.</p>
<p>I’m a 21 year old male and I don’t drink really and neither go out to bars. By the time I finished everything in my studies and worked out, I’m physically and emotionally exhausted, and I need just to watch television or sleep. During the winter, I sleep even more and just go to classes and study; plus, I tend to be more on edge and say inappropriate things sometimes to other people (and not realize it).</p>
<p>I mean it is not because of my looks or personality. I take care of my body. I’ve had many girls hit on me, but I honestly do not know how to respond AT ALL. </p>
<p>I’ll be a senior this year and I think I might have some time for a relationship. The question is: I really do not know how. I mean it starts from baby steps in high school about people asking each other out right? I don’t have anything I can use as a reference to build off. </p>
<p>Any advice for me would be much appreciated, thanks!</p>
<p>Daniel</p>
<p>it depends on yourself.</p>
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<p>read this book, it will give you the basics that you can use to start conversations with people, my personal method that i use to get girl that most guys use is</p>
<ol>
<li>Approach the girl (this is where confidence comes in</li>
<li>get to know her</li>
<li>ask her out to somewhere non-sexual like a study group or library</li>
<li>ask her out to somewhere more exclusive such as diner</li>
<li>the rest should flow in naturally but you basically kiss her and BAM! that easy! if you need any help or have more to the situation that i dont know about, feel free to PM me</li>
</ol>
<p>up the post maybe-anyone else???</p>
<p>Don’t worry about “getting into a relationship” just yet. Take this one step at a time. Step 1 is finding someone you are interested in dating. Start going to bars, or join OkCupid. Ask girls to grab coffee or lunch, then move on to dinner and a show. If, after a month or two of going out with a particular person, you decide you like her enough that you’d like to be “exclusive” with her, THEN start worrying about how to handle a relationship. </p>
<p>If you go out meeting girls thinking “relationship relationship relationship” you might come across as a little TOO into it. Instead, think of it as getting to know new, female, people :-)</p>
<p>Also, don’t think of women as an alien species. They’re just like you, only female. Start thinking of girls hitting on you – which I assume means trying to strike up conversation with you – as just regular people talking to you. It’ll make you feel more relaxed. Pretend it’s your friend!</p>
<p>i know that woman are not alien species… the problem is I think most people are so foreign to me (not just woman); maybe it is just americans who knows. I tried the okcupid thing for kicks and giggles… I doubt i will find anyone who I’m interested though. Dating sites and other superficial ways of getting to know people scare me</p>
<p>Mohamed2015: “kiss her and BAM!” is sexual harassment.</p>
<p>lulz.</p>
<p>Advice: Confidence helps you “get the ladies.”</p>