The best advice I got years ago from a guidance counselor was that as a parent we need to set the parameters up front. That can include things like geography, price etc. Tell your children exactly what your parameters are – being honest upfront can save a lot of pain down the line. And do not take your kids to visit schools that are outside those parameters. It may be too late for this child, but that advice is worth considering when it comes time to look at schools with your other children.
That said, for most students across the country finances is a big part of the final decision for college. Talk to your D now about your financial concerns. Maybe you can still find a few schools where she may get some merit aid to bridge that gap. The fact is that there are tons of amazing colleges and universities out there where students can get a fantastic education, have a wonderful experience, and get where they want to go in life. If your D ends up at UF and goes with the right attitude, she should be fine.