@MYOS1634 @redpoodles So I should just start out by saying that I had a horrific time making this decision, but I wanted to decide as soon as possible after my visits so my feeling of the campus will still fresh in my mind, but knowing me I’ll decide tomorrow that I want to go to Smith, then ultimately end up at Bryn Mawr, but here’s my reasonings:
Everyone at Bryn Mawr was extremely friendly. I know this is usually brought up, but something as simple as my pulling out a map or wandering slowly around a campus building looking for a class would bring three Bryn Mawr students to my aid without my even asking. I sat in on a ballet class and was quite honestly horrified, but I ambushed one girl who had good technique and she spent fifteen minutes talking to me about the advanced level of the ballet program and giving me the names of other studios and opportunities they had for dancers, even though that made her late giving another group of prospies a tour (whoops). My hosts were wonderful and introduced us to all their friends, who were all super excited to see us prospies and dropped what they were doing to come talk to us, they made sure we saw everything on campus we wanted to, and just in general were really welcoming. One of the biggest things I was looking for was “Could I be friends with these people?” and at Bryn Mawr, they were all very enthusiastic, obviously loved each other, and just had fantastic relationships with the other students. Oh, and the food is way, way better than what I eat on a regular basis! I loved loved loved the professors in the classes I sat in on, and they all talked to me afterwards and told me about their programs and the opportunities. They also “yelled” at me because I tried to sit in the back corner of the class and they pulled me up near the front to sit next to the students, introduced me to them, and included me in class. The students were all unafraid to speak up and ask questions, and laughed and had obviously comfortable, close-knit relationships with the profs.
Tuesday night before I visited Bryn Mawr I was sure I wanted to commit to Smith. But I had an overnight Thursday, and well, I know that I shouldn’t judge the whole student body based on my experiences, but it just wasn’t that great. My host and her friends hardly talked to us prospies, and it was very boring and dull. At Bryn Mawr, the students were laughing and dancing and studying together in the common rooms, outside, in the cafe. But at Smith, I saw a lot of people studying alone shut up in their rooms, or just sitting by themselves. It wasn’t a very lively, cheerful atmosphere. Two of my host’s friends promised to walk me to a building I needed to find this morning, as it was on the opposite side of campus and I had never been to it before. Neither of them showed up. I ended up wandering the campus by myself trying to find it (I did, eventually). The students didn’t talk much in the class I sat in on, but on the plus side I really, really liked the prof. He was very engaging and likable. I talked to quite a few other professors in departments I’m interested in, and I would LOVE to be in their classes, but I just didn’t have good experiences with the students. I tried talking to a couple current students who were supposed to be “ambassadors” about the student life there, and they were just surprisingly snide and rude. Haha oh, and my host took me on a quick tour of the house, and a couple students doing homework in their room saw her talking to me. They asked if I was a prospective student, and my host said yes and asked if they wanted to talk to me or anything. They both said “Nooo. No. we like…we don’t want to talk to her.” and I was literally standing right in front of them. Which was honestly funny on its own, but combined with the rest of my experiences with the student body it just…I don’t have a favorable impression of the school. (Note that I did spend a few minutes talking to one guy about his housing experiences, and he was super nice and I enjoyed talking to him so that was good.) I’m not easily bothered my people and I find it really easy to make friends, so the fact that I was so miserable with the students and just had a bad vibe about it was a big turn off.
Um, so yeah, there’s a lot more but that’s the gist of it. I know, I know, the student body as a whole at Smith isn’t like that. But I interacted with A LOT of students trying to get a more balanced view, and it still just…didn’t. I was disappointed, because I wanted so badly to like Smith, and I guess I realized that I was making excuses and trying so hard to convince myself that yeah, I’d like it, and yeah, I’d fit in. And I’d rather attend a school where I know that I’m welcomed and that I’d enjoy than spend the summer trying to convince myself that I’d be a great fit for the school I liked on paper. Don’t get me wrong, I’m way excited to attend Bryn Mawr, I just wish that I didn’t have to make this decision because Smith was so disappointing. I mean, if anyone has anything else to add that might help I’d really welcome it. I know a lot of people love Smith, and it’s too bad I can’t overcome my bad impression because I’m sure I would love it too.
I really really love Bryn Mawr though and I’m so happy to be able to call it my home for the next four years! It’s just the best place for me and I adore the people, and the campus, and just everything about it!