<p>Not too long ago, my H asked me what S’s SAT score was. I told him, and then asked why he was asking - he was writing his sister an email and was going to tell her. She has a daughter the same age. I suggested that telling her wasn’t a good idea, since her daughter’s scores might be substantially lower or higher than our son’s. I suspect they are lower, and that might make her feel bad. No need to go there, IMO.</p>
<p>oregonmom, In our family there is a little underlying ‘competition’ between the kids (I mean the adult kids, not the young student kids). Unfortunately, this trickles down to what the young kids are doing, how successful they are in school, their latest athletic feats, their awards, etc. Everyone is nice to each other, but there is that undercurrent of uneasiness, insecurity, one-upmanship. VERY unfortunate, but I think this is not uncommon in a lot of families. Asking or telling someone about SAT scores is sort of like sharing IQ scores, in my book. It’s personal and very self-defining in this day (it didn’t used to be- I can’t remember giving a darn what my scores were, and certainly no one was the least bit interested). My kids are disgusted with adults who vicariously compete with each other through their children.</p>