<p>for the past month i have been seeing a girl. everything is going great, but out of no where she sits me down on day, about a week ago, and pretty much apologizes for never inviting me to her room/escalating things physically. now, i’m very conservative so this is fine, but the she told me that she wants to take things slow, but she is interested. this just seemed very odd especially considering we are both going abroad next fall. is this just her way of letting me down easily?</p>
<p>i’m assuming she’s not quite ready for a physical relationship? but she still wants to be with you.</p>
<p>Perhaps, she’s not ready physically (sexually) and/or she doesn’t want to become someone’s “girlfriend” yet. </p>
<p>Some people equate being in a relationship has being restricted. You can’t go out as much in fear your significant other might get jealous, for example.</p>
<p>i just am the sort to fall into the “friend zone,” but we do lots of “couply” things and are attracted to eachother. i guess i just do not know what to do as we are both going abroad next year.</p>
<p>LOL </p>
<p>wow</p>
<p>I once had a girl, in the middle of making out, say that she wanted to take it slow. I don’t get it. I think it is something they say to themselves - but out loud - to make it seem like they have more dignity than they do. Ended up going further too, so it didn’t even seem like she believed what she said.</p>
<p>So, I am just as confused as you are. Maybe some girls are sincere.</p>
<p>If I had to guess, I would say that she is interested in a relationship but needs more time to build trust. Girls generally seem to perceive intimacy as a bigger risk (the possibility of rejection, etc) than guys. Give her some time to “get over herself.” If you pressure her into a physical relationship, she might be too anxious to enjoy the experience and you might be considered… well… you know where I am going.</p>
<p>You going abroad next fall has nothing to do with it. It’s a concern about the present, not the future.</p>
<p>You have been seeing this girl for 3 weeks and she is telling you not to expect any sex. What is confusing you?</p>
<p>What Batllo said. Plus, she might have had a bad relationship before.</p>
<p>“I think it is something they say to themselves - but out loud - to make it seem like they have more dignity than they do.”</p>
<p>maybe sometimes, but usually it just means what it means. Some girls are ok with one-night stands, others wait til the 3rd date, some wait for weeks, others months, some wait til engagement/marriage…different people are comfortable with different things. </p>
<p>anyway it sounds to me that the op’s girlfriend (or whatever) is inexperienced/a virgin and is worried about rushing into things…a lot of girls want to “take it slow” the first time and then after that they’re ok with things escalating faster. she probably apologized to you because she assumes that like most guys, you want to get laid and she feels like it’s expected of her to put out but she’s making it clear she doesn’t want to.</p>
<p>either that or her last relationship was bad and wants it to be different this time.</p>
<p>I would say no, that she would not have sat you down and talked to you about it if she were letting you down. She is just explaining her comfort zone to you, to make sure you know the boundaries before going further. Respect her boundaries, or the relationship will most certainly be over. Otherwise, seems like it’s going fine.</p>
<p>I’ve never been in a realistic relationship (Soph in HS), but I’m guessing she just doesn’t want to do anything sexually yet, and she doesn’t want to make a life changing mistake (pregnancy/sex without love/abstinence/had a bad relationship, doesn’t want another one)</p>
<p>What she means is that you are becoming boring and if she meets anyone else she will drop you in a heart beat!</p>
<p>Maybe she means what she said.</p>
<p>What is with everyone and their hidden meanings and detective work to try play Guess the Clue?</p>
<p>^THANK YOU, agreed. we girls are not that complicated -_-</p>
<p>“I think it is something they say to themselves - but out loud - to make it seem like they have more dignity than they do.”</p>
<p>or, u know, they actually have dignity. & maybe your girl just changed her mind. or felt pressured in to it, & regretted it the next morning, ha! : P</p>
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I’m not disagreeing with the rest of your post, but this is blatantly false!</p>