<p>You might want to send them a neutrally-worded email or letter, not suggesting anything, but just giving them the information. What they do with it is up to them. Based on what you’ve said, I wouldn’t expect them to rise to the occasion unfortunately, but you never know.</p>
<p>The only thing you can control, or should try to control, is your own involvement with him. If you feel called to do so, you may want to become a surrogate daughter of sorts, to give him that family connection. </p>
<p>Bless you for caring. Many of us are dealing with all kinds of elder issues, including extended family problems. It’s not easy.</p>