<p>My ds broke up with his gf, whom I have known since she was 6. We are friends with their family and will see them approximately twice a month. I imagine she is upset. She is a darling and I would have been thrilled to have had her as a dil. Should I say anything to anyone else in the family or to her and if so what?</p>
<p>What do you think needs to be said? I wouldn’t, but I guess YMMV.</p>
<p>Yes, if you have known her since she was 6 and will see the her/her family on a regular basis, I think you should say something. Not sure exactly what - something along the lines of how much you care for her as a person, and with your long history of friendship that preceded the dating relationship, you hope you can continue to be friends even though it might be a little awkward at first?</p>
<p>In HS my D dated a boy she first met when they were both 8 - they were our across the street neighbors for a while (we both subsequently moved to different houses) and they attend the same church and his mom and I are very close friends. When they began to date in HS we joked that if they ever broke up they would have to continue to be friends.</p>
<p>Well, after about a year he broke up with my D and handled it in the worst possible way imaginable. They were NOT friends. It was a strain but the other mom and I decided that in spite of our children, we could continue to be friends. Her S avoided D at school and both D and me at church but D and I continued to sit with his mom like we had for years. We had been in the habit of going out to lunch after church with their family (including several other church families) and D and I continued the tradition - he stopped going (since he was avoiding my D and wouldn’t even acknowledge she existed anymore). His younger brother later arranged with D for rides home from school since the ex had to stay after for an EC. He had always been like a little brother to her and their friendship continued.</p>
<p>Eventually (8 months later) he apologized to her for how he behaved and how he had treated her. They have never become close again, but have learned to be civil and he stopped avoiding her/pretending she didn’t exist.</p>
<p>Later his mom nominated my D for a college scholarship from her women’s club.</p>
<p>A year and a half later when D was leaving for college his mom hosted a tea/shower for D (mainly church ladies and neighborhood friends). His grandmother knitted her a scarf for the cold new england winters. His mom also still sends her care packages. </p>
<p>Her s attends college much closer to home. I always check with his mom about his latest activities and make a point to talk to him when he’s home.</p>
<p>It made my D feel so much better that even though the relationship ended, that she could still be friends with his family.</p>