<p>You can’t build a relationship based on “helping” him clean up his messes. You deserve better. You need a good, healthy relationship.</p>
<p>It is hard to stop caring about someone, but if he is messed up, he has to fix himself–with medical/professional help. (Reminds me of a former friend of my D–who ended up dying of a drug OD–many people tried to help him, but he still was messed up. . .)</p>