I read many a story like the one below:
- I am finishing sophomore year. I go to a really small school (~1700) and have recently become very very fed up with how tiny it is. I see the same few people all the time and I really just don’t like that. I hate the campus atmosphere and just can’t see myself doing another 1.5 years there (I am graduating early). However, I have very severe depression so i am not sure how much of my hatred of the college is because of me or just because of my depression. I have applied to transfer to a larger school (same price etc.) and have until the 7th to decide. However I have really great grades and a small but close group of friends up here who I’d hate to lose. Plus I don’t know if I’d be any happier at the new school given my depression and the extra anxiety associated with transferring. *
- I regret my decision. As I mentioned before I do have diagnosed depression and anxiety (which I have tried to get campus help on, but the counselors are always busy). What if my hate for the school is stemming from that? Now I would’ve transferred for no reason. Also, what if I don’t like this new school?*
People want to transfer because:
• They have no friends
• They think professors don’t like them
• They aren’t doing as well as they like
• There is “nothing to do”
They know they are unhappy and don’t feel like they have friends.
But is it really the school?
Or would they have the same problem anywhere because they are depressed/have anxiety?
Most likely you have gone to HS with many of the same people, lived in the same house for quite some time, had the same friends and now you are changing everything and going away to college. If you had some depression/anxiety you were able to deal with it from the support of your family/friends.
But now you are away from all of them…and you have to make new friends, That is harder when you are depressed/anxious. It takes more effort.
So if you are trying to decide if you should transfer:
First address any possible depression/anxiety.
Go to your College’s Counseling Center. They may have individual, group, or workshop counselling.
They may refer you to a Psychiatrist for diagnosis and medication if that is needed.
Maybe you need to try some different strategies to make friends. Here are ideas:
3)Maybe you need to try different tactics for academic success:
Maybe you do need to transfer.
• Maybe you chose the college based on prestige and not fit for you.
• Maybe you thought going away to college was “cool” but really you would rather be closer to home.
• Maybe you thought this college could support your major but really it won’t.
• Maybe you thought a small school would have advantages but you prefer the options of a large school or visa versa
• Maybe this college is really too expensive.
• Maybe this college is really too/not academic enough for you.
But also consider:
Will my financial aid change? Merit scholarship are often only offered to freshman.
You will need to re-create your social group.
You may need to take additional courses.
But it may be that it is worth it because your new college will be a better fit.