Im telling her not to play it either. I genuinely did not tell her becuase she would overreact and now she’s overreacting more. Like I get it, in ruining my college GPA but she’s attacking me mentally and stuff right now and saying she thinks I’m it mentally there and I’m mentally strange and I don’t know anymore.
I told my mom not to get involved but she said she has to: it’ll look like I’m a little high schooler whose holding my moms hand. She’s just getting mad or whatever.
I wouldn’t bring up any of that to him. I was just frustrated and needed to let some of that out.
Philosophy should be under Humanities.
The college should have a website.
Look under Department of Philosophy and see who the chairperson is.
There should also be a directory of different Schools. Go to the office and explain nicely to the desk secretary and he/she will direct you to the right person. You won’t be the first/last/only student to ever go in to complain about a professor.
well, just letting you know, she can’t even if she wants to. Part of the enrollment form is parents sign to agree it’s a college class, minor students are to be treated as adults and independently. No body at the college will talk to her. If you got this, just tell her you got this…
I don’t want to sound accusatory like I was being earlier but she genuinely does not care and it’s hurt before. Like shes so controlling on everything I do; especially the college process. Like she got mad at my 10 year old sister for not knowing her major and what school she wanted to attend. I genuinely cannot talk to her and I’m at the point in which I am done whether that will hurt me or not.
She just takes it to the extreme. I’m tired. I do not see a future nor do I wish to do anything anymore. I don’t want to do medicine anymore or go to an Ivy if it means there’s people with a similar mindset as her. I just want to fix this situation right now and move on with my life. I wish I didn’t have to get online advice from strangers to see if I’m being rational or not but here I am.
I think it really set me off when she said « my top choice » « where are we applying » like she talks about it and she said I was being selfish when I don’t try because it affects her more. Which I get it, I’m glad she cares but it’s too much
I don’t think she gives an f right now. She sees the reputation and a six figure salary. I don’t think she sees the burn out, which I’ve been since like what middle school, and the mental trauma or whatever. I’m at the point where I just can’t see myself doing anything else. I don’t know.
I’m trying to figure stuff out on my own but I’m failing miserably.
I feel like we’ve moved onto another, even more concerning issue, than this dual enrollment grade. OP, I am worried about you. Do you have a trusted adult in your life that you can talk to? I feel like you need some real support with what you’re dealing with and maybe just someone to vent to and get a reality check from. While many of us here are parents and can certainly sympathize with your situation, you are right that strangers on the internet are really no substitute for an IRL support system. Do you have people in your life you can talk to about these things and who can support you with what you’re feeling right now?
My dads a pharmacist. She did NYU architecture and had a good job, she also did idek what, like nursing and she couldn’t work and have kids so now she substitute teaches for extra cash. My dad works 24/7 but that’s because he’s like a pharmacy board director and works multiple jobs. It’s not necessary at all because we were fine before but he just wants a fancy title ig
No, I don’t form bonds with adults. In my old private school I told a friend I had like bad thoughts and the counselor told her coworker who had a relative who had a kid in my school and basically the whole school found out and my mom was so mad. I don’t want to get the law or anything involved. I can’t bring myself to trust them im sorry
You need to be able to talk about your feelings and deserve a safe space for doing so. Often school counselors can be a good starting point and they should keep what you say in confidence, but I imagine that option no longer feels safe to you based on your previous experience. Honestly, therapy would likely be helpful to you - is there any way your parents would let you try that?
Honestly, my one gift in life is a great long term memory.
You sound like every friend I had in HS and myself included. Part of growing up is detaching from parental shadow and it’s never a smooth transition.
Teenage rebellious phase is a real thing and many of my friends went thru a rebellious phase. Personally I lacked parental supervision, so I was really left to my own device. But I saw how many crying nights and loud screaming arguments my friends had with their parents. Believe me, you are going thru the same things a lot of HS kids are. And from my own observation, all my friends did all turn out fine, even the girl who eloped with her boy friend…
Most of the time on CC, I read about parents saying asking advice for their kids. Really I think they are asking for themselves. Most HS kids really do not want what the parents ask…