Should one send a thank you note after receiving a thank you present?

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<p>I recently did some free legal work for one of my law partners-no big deal at all, but if I had been billing him at my normal rate it would have been around $1000 worth of work. As a thank you he brought me a very nice bottle of wine. (I was thrilled because 90% of the free work I’ve done for folks in the firm has earned me barely a verbal thanks.) Do I need to send him a thank you note for his thank you gift to me?</p>

<p>I hadn’t thought so. But…a couple of weeks ago I was invited to dinner at a client’s home. As a thank you gift, I sent the hostess I book I knew she would like. She sent me a thank you note for my thank you gift. </p>

<p>So do I need to send my partner a thank you note for his thank you bottle of wine?</p>

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<p>I think it couldn’t hurt. The five minutes it would take to write out a brief “thanks for the bottle o’ wine… I’ll enjoy it with fish” kind of thing makes you look classy and keeps you on their mind in a good way. People liking you is almost always beneficial.</p>

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<p>I never do because I am awful about that type of thing but I know that I should…so I guess what I am saying is " do as I say and not as I do!"</p>

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<p>A note might not be required, but if you didn’t thank him in person (i.e., he sent the wine rather than handing it to you), you might at least want to call with your thanks so that he knows it arrived unbroken!</p>

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<p>He bought it to me in person. I was thinking of waiting until we’d consumed the wine … then I could go on about how great it was (he’s really into wine.)</p>

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<p>My mother (may she rest in peace) would have sent the thank you for the thank you.</p>

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<p>Up to you. But it never hurts. A thank you note is always welcomed.</p>

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<p>I’d deliver my thank you in the same way your colleague delivered his to you—in person. Yes, drink the wine (soon), and then go to him and thank him profusely—that way, he’ll see the delight and gratitude on your face, and you’ll see the delight and satisfaction on his. It’s more personal and provides instant gratification.</p>

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<p>ummm… <em>r@NdoM mood</em>
Just wondering… missypie. The question that you posed isn’t exactly related to CC.</p>

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<p>This is the Parent Cafe, Maverick…we can and do talk about anything here…look at the other topics…politics, gray hair, trip to Europe. Welcome and feel free to start a random thread yourself.</p>

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<p>maverick, that’s why it’s posted in the Parent Cafe, which is for all sorts of random posts that parents want to talk about.</p>

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<p>Maverick90: about 80% of the stuff posted in the Parent CAFE (not the Forum) isn’t directly related to college either. Not to worry.</p>