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<p>I think it’s precisely because sexuality is private. I mean, no one thinks it’s morally wrong or is horribly surprised or anything to find out that my husband and I have sex, but we don’t make a point of making the fact that we are (or are intending to) be part of the fabric of overall conversation / life. If we were visiting relatives, for example, we wouldn’t just go upstairs for a mid-afternoon quickie while other people were around. Not because it’s “wrong” but because other people simply don’t need to know the particulars. Likewise, I wouldn’t expect my college age students to disappear in front of me in an obvious fashion like that if we were all sitting around the house and doing whatever. I suppose it is duplicitous in a way, but there’s discretion too. And I think discretion isn’t necessarily always “because it’s icky, shameful and should be hidden” but just because private things are … well, private. I recognize that I’m not articulating this particularly well.</p>