<p>When I was in college in my early 20s, my SO invited me to spend the weekend with him at his mom’s house. I must have asked a 100 times, “Are you SURE that’s OK with her???” Sure we were spending almost all of our nights together at college, but to spend a weekend together at his mom’s house? That definitely would not been acceptible at my parents house. The next morning, he left the house for some reason and I took a shower. Right after I got out of the shower, his mom lightly knocked on the door to introduce herself to me when I was wearing nothing but a towel. Now a couple decades later, I’m still horrified by that.</p>
<p>My SO had a younger brother in HS who had a girlfriend at the time. We would spend the evenings together having dinner or watching TV and then the two of them would go upstairs together. I definitely wasn’t comfortable with that. Then I watched my SOs mom call the young girls parents and say that “she had fallen asleep on the couch and she didn’t want to wake her up, so she’d bring her home in the morning.” If I had known how to get in touch with those parents, I think I might have intervened and told them the truth that they needed to hear. It was just a few months later when we got the news that his younger brother, a junior in HS and his girlfriend, a sophomore in HS were expecting a baby.</p>
<p>That seems to be was has been left out of this thread, that their ARE consequences to having a sexual relationship and although protection offers a certain degree of protection, if it fails are young adults at a point that they are ready to handle these potential consequences? Perhaps it’s just because I’ve seen it too many times in my life… I have a cousin, who by the time she turned 30, had 4 children with 3 different men, the first of which was born when she was still 17. My younger sister got pregnant while still in high school. My SOs girlfriend mentioned above struggled to finish HS after her daughter was born when she was still, I believe, 15. I, myself, was born in August of the year that my parents married in May. My roomate in college was an unexpected baby born to a married couple while her mother was on the birth control pill. I now have a close friend in his 40s who had a vasectomy nearly 20 years ago and found out about a year ago, that even that didn’t prevent his newest daughter from arriving. And I could go on and on with other stories of friends and relatives who had not intended on brining a new life into this world and some honestly trying to prevent it, but some times mother nature has other plans.</p>
<p>It is not just about the ‘ickiness’ or about the privacy, it’s about whether these young adults are prepared for the consequences they may be facing. I wouldn’t have given my son a beer when he was 13, although that is perfectly legal and acceptible in other cultures. I wouldn’t have given him the keys to my car when he was 10. And I don’t condone him having a sexual relationship in HS. Besides the fact that I’m too young to have anyone call me grandma, right now my son is an outstanding student with an incredibly bright future and I will not know that I supported anything that could have a devestating impact on that future.</p>