<p>DS was living in a studio close to his college in the gap year after college. One of his very close college friends at one time would like to crash at his place with his girlfriend. DS declined because he thought he might be put into an awkward situation when three of them were in one room overnight. They are still close friends after this event.</p>
<p>Is he too conservative? Maybe he has unknowingly inherited our standard. When he was a high schooler, he and his then girlfriend would like to come to our house and they might stay in his own room (not overnight, just during daytime). The girl’s family is very conservative, and we believe the girl’s parents would not allow her to come to our house – because the girl likely dared not ask her parent’s permission. It appears that the “acceptable” place for their date is her family room, under their family’s supervision. Going to a movie theater as a couple was prohibited by her parents also. We respect their family’s “standard”. So we said no to them, as we did not want to do something that was not approved by her family.</p>