Do any of you have same sex children that look nothing alike? Assume same mother and father. Or do you have same sex children that look very much alike, yet have a different father or mother?
My D2 visited my D1 this weekend in NYC to attend a Taylor Swift concert together. They posted a selfie and I was again reminded how different they are. D1 is 5’ 4 or so inches. Small framed and thin. She has dark brown hair and hazel eyes. D2 is 5’ 10 or 11, light brown hair and sky blue eyes. She is very big boned, not fat just everything is bigger. Except both are small breasted. Haha D1 has a small nose, D2 larger. D1 has full lips, D2 thiner. D1 has regular eyelashes, D2 has full, getting complements full.
No one would think they are sisters. Wish I could post a pic!
My own siblings, my own kids, and the kids of my siblings - within each family unit, all look quite different from each other. We don’t have those genes where there is a strong family resemblance, like you see in some families. Instead, there is a wide range in natural hair color, heights, builds, complexions, personalities.
I have a son and a daughter so not same sex, once when they were kids, at a party a complete stranger came up and asked me if they were from different fathers. I was floored by the rudeness of the question, and it wasn’t until later that I thought about some snappy comebacks. A different time, when they were young, someone else I didn’t know asked at a playground about their different looks. Yes, both parents are the same - like its was any of their business anyway.
Just a couple of days ago in the NYT : the fascinating story of 2 sets of IDENTICAL twins in Colombia, born at the same hospital. But a hospital screw-up sent two families home to raise 2 identical sets of FRATERNAL twins.
2 neighborhood boys(now young men) across the street - they look so different from each other that when my mom was visiting years back, she pulled me aside and asked “is one of them adopted?”
Younger one has very dark hair and olive skin, not very tall. he looks very much like his 5’3" or 5’4" mom.
Older one has fair complexion, light brown hair (but was a tow-headed toddler), fairly tall. Looks quite a bit like his tall father.
Doschicos - it’s absolutely gobsmacking the questions/comments that come out of people’s mouths sometimes, that’s for sure!
I thought I should have said, “Well, their dads could be any number of men. I’m always so drunk when the Navy ship is in town, I don’t remember.” Now if I could actually say something like that matter-of-factly with a straight face, it would be fun to watch what kind of reaction I got.
S1, S2, and D2 are tall, thin, blond, blue-eyed. D1 has dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. S1 and D2 look like twins in baby pictures–can tell them apart because D2 was usually in a dress. All kids are small-framed, though we are tall (Ss both over 6’4", Ds 5’8+). D1 has curves, D2 inverted triangle (no butt).
When is was obvious D2 would look like her brothers, D1 asked if I would dye my strawberry blond hair brown so she would look like someone else in the family. She was 4. H has light brown hair and light brown eyes.
My boys don’t look alike. I don’t even think they look related. One takes after me, and one takes after H. The only thing they have in common is dk blond/light brown hair…which they get from H’s side. Well, they both have grn-hazel eyes, which is probably the result of having a blue-eyed dad and a brown-eyed mom. But their faces are totally different…always have been.
My mom was a twin. She was the taller, curly haired, medium-boned, but very normal-sized twin. Her twin was shorter, tiny boned, and extremely petite with straight hair.
She hated that people called her “the big twin” when they were growing up. Or, worse, people would make faces when they’d say, “You girls are twins?!?”
In the end, it was ok…cuz mom grew up to be the “pretty one.” lol.
I had a friend with fraternal twins. She was asked by strangers if they had different fathers, IN FRONT OF THE KIDS! She was annoyed. One of them was blond and very fair and the other very tan (looking part Hawaiian).
My sister: 5’10", gorgeous wavy chestnut hair, brown eyes.
Me: 5’ 6" (on a well rested morning!), straight straw-like blond-ish hair, green eyes.
Same parents.
I’ve seen a number of ironic parent-child pairings at my kids’ schools: biracial white-looking kids with their non-white parent, and white parents w an adopted child from africa or asian.
I have two sets of fraternal twin cousins. " Michele" is 5’2" curvy, dark eyes and hair. " Patty" is 5’9" bond and blue eyed. Totally different personalities as well. Second set of cousins “John” - very dark hair, heavy beard. " Jeff" - very blond and scant facial hair. They are never recognized as siblings. It just shows what a great game our genetic lottery is.
We have friends who have biracial kids where one looks very much more like one race than her or his sibling. I’m hoping that will be a non- issue by the time they are adults and nobody asks " Is she your real sister?"
My sister’s girls look nothing alike. One is the image of my sister, but with her dad’s olive skin to her Slavic white. That niece is also heavier built, with brown hair. The other sister is skinny, has the longest neck I’ve ever seen on a real person, and is covered in freckles, with bright red hair. My grandmother had red hair, but I don’t know anyone on either side of the family with her build.
My three kids all look like their dads-my oldest two like their English/Irish dad, my youngest like her African American dad only lighter. I’ve been asked, in front of her: if the hospital mixed up the babies, “What is she?”, “Where did I get her?” and other gems. Just this last week, a very bright girl at D’s college week program went around patting the skin of the 3 black kids to see if “they’re really all that soft”. In 2015.
“I have a son and a daughter so not same sex, once when they were kids, at a party a complete stranger came up and asked me if they were from different fathers. I was floored by the rudeness of the question, and it wasn’t until later that I thought about some snappy comebacks.”
@doschicos I would have said, “You didn’t ask me, when we were having sex, if I was with anyone else. Why are you denying your own flesh and blood, now?” Slammer!
I’ve got 6 kids. 5 biological from the same father, and 1 adopted
First 2 are girls. D1 is very fair skinned, tall and thin but curvy, with very straight dark auburn hair. D2 is several shades darker, tall and straight as a rod (no hips, small chest), with wavy thick blonde hair. You would never know they were related.
The next two are boys. S1 is red haired, fair skinned, bony thin and a little on the short side. S2 is tall, blonde, muscular, and has a perpetual deep tan. Again, no one would know they are brothers.
D3 (5th child) is the spitting image of D1 except for a darker skin tone.
My youngest D is biracial. She is actually fairer skinned than D2 and S2, and her hair is the blondest of them all (although she’s only 2).
“Are you sure this kid was bright?” It was a program for bright kids, so book smart, yes. Very sheltered, yes. Possessing of common sense? Not so much.
