<p>Ok so i’m really sick of my parents having to constantly remind me that they are paying my full tuition next year…and honestly guys I’ve realized I made a huuuuge mistake having to choose a uni that is within commuting distance. This means that I have to live with these ppl forever (I’m having the feeling that I’ll be living w/ them until I marry). The uni I’m going to is really good and profound, but I would seriously exchange that for a lower tier uni if that means I will be FAAR FAAR away from them. The beginning of summer has taught me enough that I will never be able to tolerate my parents and I’m really depressed having to stay with them and have their immigrant fashion be all over me. So my request is that, could anyone recommend an international uni that has a good standing in medicine and offers full scholarship? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME! You don’t know how thankful i would be if you could suggest me some good references.</p>
<p>First, why an international university? Going to an OOS college will serve the same purpose (being far away from your parents.)</p>
<p>Secondly, I guess the amount of tuition may be proportionally high for your family’s income or accumulated asset. This would be the case for many families and if this is the case for your family, this may be the reason why your parents “whine” a lot about paying your cost of attendance. (Most of their savings over the past N years may be wiped out before you graduate!) This may be a major factor why you go to an in-state college: out of necessity, to help cut down the total cost of attendance by minimizing the living expenses. A reality in this world is that poor people do not have means to go very far.</p>
<p>To put it bluntly, only two kinds of students are likely financially able to go to an OOS college: those whose families have the financial means themselves, or those who could get into a very desirable college because of their outstanding qualification (say, from the top 5-10% of the application pool.)</p>
<p>The above may be the reality – It is not a very pleasant one.</p>
<p>So, how can you make yourself “better” under this condition? Getting a very good grade could give you some possibility that some other OOS school may accept you one year later as a transfer student. The financial aid tends to be better at a first-tier or second-tier college. So you had better do really well on your academic in order to transfer to that kind of “more ethical in term of financial aid practice” school. Otherwise, you will be in the same situation where you are at one year later – because a lower tier school will not give you enough loans (due to the “gapping” practice in a lower-tier college’s financial aid package) to survive and you need your parents’ financial assistance (e.g., nobody will loan you enough money to enable you to survive at an OOS college if a college does not award you enough financial aid in terms of (mostly) loans. They may loan money to your parents if they have sufficient income, but not to you.)</p>
<p>Sorry, although I sympathize with you, I am not able to offer a good short-term advice that could solve your problem.</p>
<p>Are you saying that your parents won’t let you live on campus?</p>
<p>i’m an international living in us, and yea we are pretty poor (having to live in a small apartment my entire life I guess). @mcat2, my dad will be spending his entire life savings my first year of college. Now, my uni isn’t expensive, it’s one of the least expensive and the most prestigious. However, I fail to see the use of it when I’m constantly reminded and depressed over the fact that my parents are doing this for me. Also, I am not applying to an OOS uni b/c it would cost the same as a private, which I have not a single penny to pay for. An international uni that is accredited within the country and recognized among US is precisely what I’m looking for. When I say I want to go far, I want to go FAR. I don’t like how my dad has to remind me that because of him I got to US and am able to get decent admission to a uni. Both my parents oversee my hard work and think that I’ve been chilling this entire time while they have laboured over for my education and well being. While I technically agree with this, it is too harsh a claim and much too unbearable for me to hear it on a daily basis as a cliche. @pea, I won’t be living on campus unfortunately in my circumstances, and I fear that I might jeapordize my education by not being able to have that student connection as everyone else who might be living on campus.</p>
<p>OP, Since you originally posted it on the premed forum, there is a chance you may be interested in going the premed path. If this is the case, and if you will still be an international by the time you apply to medical schools, the financial hurdle is a serious one, let alone the academic and other (even including the soft) standard is set higher for (non-Canadian) internationals. Even if some medical schools may admit an international student, they may expect an international student to deposit all expenses for 4 years upfront before they would allow the international student to matriculate. We are talking about a quarter of a million dollars that need to be deposited to a bank to show the medical school before matriculation!</p>
<p>Often times, the parents in a newly immigrated family have an expectation of their child that is just not very reasonable. I knew one engineer who got an engineering degree and had got a job and in his late twenties (and had wife and one kid of his own.) His parents occasionally still nag him: “Why didn’t you work harder while you were in high school/college? If you did what I told you to do at that time, you are a doctor today!” Their parents also mentioned to him that a daughter of his close friend got into Rice and then became a doctor at a private medical school. But they forgot to mention that, even if his son could get into Rice, can their family afford it?! Oh…Boy! unrealistic expectation. Hopefully, your parents are not as extreme as this.</p>
<p>If you’re poor and your dad is spending all of his savings on your first year of college, how will you pay for years 2,3 and 4?</p>
<p>@mcat2: They are not that extreme, but they do oversee a lot of flaws of other people while they praise their success and my failure. They want me to be a simple individual…yet they hold a lot of unrealistic dreams. I decided a long time ago that I will not listen to them much because they constantly want me to go the cheaper route (however, I know the price I’ll pay when I become a janitor and they are whining all over me). I do want to be a doctor, and I’ve immersed myself so much into the topic that I don’t care what price I pay to become one. I guess what I’m looking for is a 6 year med school that is cheap and one where I can get a scholarship. I never considered these schools while I was applying as senior HS student because of their low tier rep, but I feel now that it was a stupid mistake. </p>
<p>@mom2collegekids: I agree, and that is why I want to lift off the burden from him. I would really like it if I could implement my freshman year time in getting into some college where money wouldn’t be a problem. I also feel bad that my younger sibling would end up having no financial backing when my parents have spent all their money on me…</p>
<p>For med school check out Cuba’s Latin American School of Medicine–Full Scholarship Program to Study Medicine in Havana, Cuba. I know nothing about this other than what I read in a newspaper article once. I just googled it and there is information about it online. The tuition is free and expenses almost nothing. In the article I remember reading that living conditions were a little primitive–no air conditioning, for example–but the education was top notch.</p>