@stalecookies @Mercurrii @mondaydevil I think those are fairly good reasons (too big, or people have told you it’s not a very good school [when 'spilling the tea i.e. talking about the school], or it’s a Christian school & you’re not)! @2024ac @one1ofeach I think the AO acting uninterested or seeming self centered are red flags, making those really good reasons to not apply. True, maybe for some people any these might not be the most important reasons, but they were valid for you & are reasonable.
I’m hoping someone will reply with a truly RIDICULOUS (“silly”) reason they didn’t apply
Four my OP “spooky” reason: the school checked all the “fit” criteria (for us): academic, social, EC, school size, % boarding, special programs, dress code, location.
But, six months before we began truly researching schools we had stopped by (we’d travelled far & were in the area… but this wouldn’t be an AO visit/tour). Unbeknownst to us, it was the start of a long weekend. The drive up took us through a forest (weird-feeling-ish since we live in a populated region), the sun felt like it was going down too early & strange shadows were cast by the trees. After a long twisty-turny stretch of road, the school appeared: an imposing gray stone building on a hill, with a cloudy & bleak sky behind it. We were almost too scared to turn onto the driveway! We did & it was empty save three students (I think day students) in sports uniforms (months later we realized they must’ve just finished practice & were waiting for parent pick-ups). There was NO ONE else. We got scared & turned back!
Later, when developing our list to apply to, all of our research showed it to be a really good fit for us, so we kept trying not eliminate that school, but we couldn’t shake the feeling it was “spooky” LOL
Are we the only ones in CC land to drop a school for a totally silly reason?