<p>cheers–LOL! We were wondering…</p>
<p>OK, we can all put our eyebrows back down now.</p>
<p>jymmie…I think photos could get us both arrested by the cyber police.</p>
<p>all these staid married folks in here…where’s the singles support group!!!</p>
<p>lol…jk!!</p>
<p>Watch out for astronauts!</p>
<p>And Speaking of Singles Support Group, anyone seen hide or hair of AriesAthena lately? She kept us young and reminded us of the single life. I’ve been missing her lately.</p>
<p>Reincarnated under a new name?</p>
<p>mootie–I have seen those Jeroboams of wine a few times here and there. They are amazing in size but always covered with cobwebs and dust, aren’t they? I wouldn’t bet on the <em>quality</em> of the wine but it still might do the trick.</p>
<p>I thought TSFH was The Son From…! That works no matter what year he is. We have also had the GFFH; we could also have TDFH & the BFFH. Not to mention the FIL, SIL, DIL, and MIL, god help us. </p>
<p>The trick is not to BE the MILFH. :D</p>
<p>I think Ariesathena has sucumb to the deadly S’s</p>
<p>Sun
Surf
Sabatical
San Diego</p>
<p>She may never reappear</p>
<p>it works for me! wink wink</p>
<p>how about TXFH…</p>
<p>wecandothis–</p>
<p>Aren’t they always? :eek:</p>
<p>Yes - CSFS means college student from space. My H keeps telling me he will be ok, but I have my doubts.</p>
<p>Anyway - Have asked my S’s to keep the details of their sex lives and other various escapades from me and H. Once they have gone off to college, I don’t want to know. Little I could do, even if I wanted to. I remember being 18 and 21. </p>
<p>Yes, cars can be fixed, provided no one is hurt. Lent S’s car (the one with the misplaced keys over Christmas break) to a close friend whose husband totaled their car a month or so ago. Got a message yesterday that the car needed a “pricey” repair or mechanic said the engine would seize. No details. Said she would be out last night but would follow up later. I don’t think that the fun ever really ends. It’s only money, right…</p>
<p>Planning on a martini tonight on the way to ski country. Meeting MIL home from FLA for some medical tests. Hope she is ok. She is headed to Guatamala for Feb school vacation with SIL and BIL, nieces and nephews.</p>
<p>aren’t there any nice single dads in here who want to buy me a bloody mary? my mouth is so dry I’m spittin cotton…</p>
<p>not sure where to start today, probably a double espresso would be better…I am preparing for my d’s second winter formal within 1 week, sick kid home from school today, volunteering in school library, doing finaid paperwork and prodding d to get scholarship stuff done; cleaning and cooking for gang coming here pre-formal;and doing my own homework for classes I am taking. </p>
<p>BTW, congrats to all you having anniversaries…now what are your secrets to the longevity of your marriages? do tell!</p>
<p>The secret to my long marriage is NOT TOO MUCH communication. Honestly, sometimes it really is better to just let some stuff go. I think communicating can be overrated. Ha. LOL. I’d make a great marriage counselor, wouldn’t I??? :)</p>
<p>Been married for almost 22 years, not sure what the secret is. Acceptance, shared interests, giving each other our own space, putting our marriage first (not that the kids aren’t important, but…). Tolerating bad times and differences of opinion. </p>
<p>wecandothis - Bloody Mary sounds good, although I am a big fan of double expressos. Why do we need to prod them to fill out scholarship forms?</p>
<p>do you think any of it is just the luck of the draw, so to speak? and how much comes down to just making a “good” choice in the first place…which also could have a large component of luck to it, since several of you with long marriages got married fairly shortly after meeting…</p>
<p>weenie- I agree with you about too much communication, btw…don’t you think a little mystery can be good?</p>
<p>my d is ODed on essays…thus it came as a bit of a shock that once the apps were in, she really wasn’t done writing essays, because now there are scholarship essays to write…hard now that senioritis has set in too</p>
<p>where are the Italian soccer players bearing our espresso when we need them!</p>
<p>My S is ODed on essays as well - trying to combine as many as possible. Senioritis is also in play - can’t wait to be done with HS and on to the next phase.</p>
<p>Am visualizing the Italian soccer players - short shorts and tight jerseys. Don’t think that they need to speak English at all, do they?</p>
<p>We met in college - married within six months of H’s graduation. Seemed to know right away that this was “it”. Might just be luck.</p>
<p>It is a certain amount of dumb luck, I think. OTOH when you find someone good you have to hold on to them. So many young people play the field without a goal in mind, to stretch a metaphor. The goal being to find a “keeper.” Bad pun…metaphor stretched to breaking…</p>
<p>I met my H at college when he was a freshman and I was a junior (cradle-robbing, I know!) OK, he was immature but I could see he was husband material, if you know what I mean, and I was willing to give him time to grow up.</p>
<p>His whole family was composed of muscians, and I just seemed to fit in. I guess he thought so, anyway! </p>
<p>Plus he was SO cute. ;)</p>
<p>I met my H at an “all you can drink” party sponsored by the student chapter of the chemical engineering society. He was a junior, I was a senior. Surprisingly, there weren’t a lot of women at the party. Anyway, turns out he was (and still is) six years older than me. Thought I was robbing the cradle, but not…</p>
<p>Recently, I’ve seen Dustin Hoffman and Denzel Washington in interviews in which they describe the secret to their long marriages. Hoffman said he is terrified of his wife. Washington said he does everything she tells him to do. There is a ring of truth to that.</p>
<p>Luck and common sense play a role. If you want a long marriage, take a look at his father. Could you be married to him? Do his parents have a good marriage? Does he love and treasure his mother? </p>
<p>A good memory also plays a role. When you hit the low lows (which are inevitable–even in the most charmed lives), you must be able to remember how happy you were in the good times. the good times come back–though you might have to wait as long as a year.</p>
<p>In our current dottage, the trick is to wade through the transition to old age with grace–and drag your spouse along with you. Men are sorely tempted to let go and swim downstream–because they can do.</p>
<p>Anniversary 32 coming up, and we married within a year of meeting in college. I was with one of his friends (it was less of a date and more of a group outing) when we met in a bar. I will say that if I had met his dad before things got serious I probably would have run in the other direction. But we both loved his mother (and mine). </p>
<p>My husband has always traveled a lot. I think the forced separations, whether 2 days or 2 weeks, were good for us. The real secret to our long marriage is — we can’t afford to get divorced. :D</p>