<p>My daughter is not attending her prom in 2 weeks. I am afraid she will be sorry that she didn’t try to get a group of friends together. So she has decided to go to the beach with a friend. The problem is that I need to drive there to register them because they are under 21. That means over an hour drive each way but it is doable. Any other suggestions? Has anyone skipped their prom and regretted it or am I worrying too much?</p>
<p>Let her go, it is her memory and what she wants…I had wished the opposite with my DS. His gf of 9 mos., broke up with 8 days b4, he caught her cheating on him…I asked him why he still was going…she bought the dress. I am proud that he stood up as a man and kept the committment, but I knew it was going to be a hard night for him, my stomach was in knots the entire night. He did come home and said he had fun, basically he danced with everyone else, but her (she spent the night texting her new bf) They even had a fight as we were taking pics, b/c the new beau had the gall to text her in front of DS, she of course told him “I am not dating him”…I had to be Mamma Bear and ste in (I was very close to her) and said what kind of guy does this? He knows you are here with him, if he respected you he would have stayed off the phone for the night, b/c he should know that all this is going to do is make you fight with DS…I see that he really cares for you to put you in that sit…or is it that he is afraid you will go back to DS…either way XXX is that the kind of guy you want to be with?</p>
<p>Sorry for taking it off topic…I just had to vent!</p>
<p>My son did the same thing he took an ex to a formal. She also “had the dress”. Unfortunately he still wants to get back together with her. I am keeping my mouth shut! I just didn’t want my daughter to regret this decision down the road. She says everyone there would be couples and she doesn’t want to just go with a friend.</p>
<p>This year will be my 8th an final prom - as a mom! Thank God it’s over!
There is what we call “Prom Drama” every year. Tickets go on sale two months before and couples come and go in that time.
Usually, even if couples break up they end up going to prom together - it isn’t that uncommon.</p>
<p>If your daughter doesn’t want to go to her Prom - don’t sweat it. She will have a good time and miss what? Bad food that no one eats? A dress you can’t go to the bathroom in? A dress that falls apart and you spend the whole night fixing? A girl who makes a move on your guy or vice versa?
Proms are a learning experience - some good and some bad.
Let your daughter have a good time at the beach - as long as you trust the situation.</p>
<p>thanks guys, I am feeling better already! I will not miss the drama at all.</p>
<p>She will probably have a great time at the beach. This is coming from one who thinks proms are highly overrated - especially for kids on the way to college. I personally don’t know anyone who rates their high school prom up there with either important or particularly memorable experiences. My D and her friends are happy to be going but they’re not over the moon about prom. They are more excited about some of the graduation parties and beach week. Very few of my D’s friends are dating anyone so the elaborate plans,expense and all the fuss don’t seem to be really warranted. I think they’d be just as happy to hang out together in someone’s basement playing the music they really want to hear and dancing for hours.</p>
<p>In our town they don’t have dinner, so all of the couples go out to eat b4. After we kissed our DS goodby, we went out to dinner with our friends at a nice restaurant (totally forgetting that it would be filled with kids). I have to say, I had to elbow my DH to put his eyes back in and jokingly told him remember she’s jail bait! This lead us into the conversation of would you card her and wow I can’t believe the folks allowed her to buy that dress. Yes, it might be jealousy that I couldn’t pull her dress off, but than again I wouldn’t have allowed my DD to buy the dress.</p>
<p>Here is the description of her:
5’8 in heels , maybe 120 lbs, beautiful figure. Blonde and gorgeous
Skin clinging Big Bird yellow halter dress, cut down pass the cleavage area, then another opening after that cut down to right above the navel. Back cut down to the tip of buttocks. The dress was so clingy that all friends husband said shes going commando! His wife says no she has a thong, I looked and told her no way, not one line to be found around the hip area front or back! And you could see her feet had sand sandals on…OOPS almost forgot to mention that the front had a slit up the side to her mid thigh! Being with guys they of course alluded to her being able to do a Sharon Stone (Basic Instinct)
Now our guys are great guys, and it was all in fun, but what message was she sending that night to all of the 18 yr old with over the top hormones.</p>
<p>I really felt for her, it made me think of the Trace ADkins song “you’re going to miss this” where the girl just always wants to be older…what happened to the proms where we dressed up like Cinderella for the night, when did that change?</p>
<p>BTW we have a jr/sr prom, last yr our DS went with all of his friends camping for the weekend…they had a blast and DS never regretted not going with just a friend to the prom for ly</p>
<p>I almost skipped both of my proms. I decided to go to my junior prom the night before (and didn’t have a dress until after I decided to go) and was having second thoughts the day of the senior prom. We don’t have to buy tickets and both my dresses were on major clearance so I wouldn’t lose too much financially by not going. </p>
<p>I ended up going to both, and honestly, I think I probably would have had more fun going to the beach or something. I’m not super big on dancing and I didn’t have a date, so it was kind of boring…</p>
<p>A lot of proms are just a few VERY expensive hours of dress up and then the real fun is the afterprom drinking trip. I think it would be much more fun to go to the beach!!!</p>
<p>My school didn’t have a prom, doesn’t bother me a bit that I’ve never been to one. I’ve been to plenty of weddings and they seem pretty similar! Bad music, bad food, nice company. My older son didn’t go to his prom, my younger son I can imagine going either way. If his big group of friends decides to go as a group he’ll probably go to. They dragged him to the mall over spring break. So not his thing! They even got him to buy a t-shirt.</p>
<p>This has been bothering me all week and I have been trying to decide whether or not to post on the issue. </p>
<p>I chaperoned my D’s prom this year. I knew about the dancing because D has talked about it through the years but I was still very surprised. Most of the kids were Freaking and Grinding doing it in couples and groups. It looked like sex but with nice clothes on. The administrators did nothing even though the kids had all signed a paper stating that they would not do it. As chaperones we were told that they had ways to control it and stop it. During the dance I asked staff what they were going to do about it and one said NOTHING! He said that they don’t do anything about it because it won’t stop. According to my D this is how kids dance at all of the schools. This is the acceptable way to dance in high school. She had recently returned from a party school (college) visit and had attended a dance where no one was F or G. I felt really bad for the young girls at the prom who had stars in their eyes, fancy hair, new dresses and boy friends that just wanted to freak. It also seemed directly tied to popularity,the most popular kids were doing the worst stuff in the middle of the floor then it kind of radiated out untill you got to the tables were the least popular kids were sitting with dates or by themselves watching with a sad disallusioned look in their eyes. My D danced but moved to different dance partners if someone wanted to Freak.
I am glad I went, as I have younger children who will never attend a school sponsored dance without me chaperoning. I realized that the teachers that were there, all had students in the school. Their sons and daughters were not F and G. I think that if every student had a parent in attendence the students would think twice before having sex in front of them. What really got me was seeing many kids from religious families F and G with the rest of them. Funny! We are not religious at all but my kids seem to have better morals than these kids that attend teen church etc… all week long.<br>
Spend the money on something else. Prom is not what it is all cracked up to be, and Chaperone your kids!</p>
<p>OK, I know what grinding is, but I have no idea what ‘freaking’ is.</p>
<p>From what I can tell freaking is more intense grinding (think fast sex)</p>