<p>I would aspire to someone to clean my house, but my dog would eat them, so that’s out. Therefore, I have a husband and he cleans the house as much as I do and does all the icky stuff. HIs mom was a maid until she was in her 70s for some lazy rich people who helped her keep a roof over her head after her husband died without providing for her and her older son took what was left. So my husband knows how to clean.</p>
<p>romani, I have no doubt that when you are successful, busy, rich and motivated, you will hire people to help you and pay them well and treat them with the respect they deserve.</p>
<p>My SO is terrible when it comes to cleaning. He tries, he really does and I’m sure he’ll get there one day. He was raised by a mom who firmly believed that household chores were women’s work so his brothers and he never had to do any of that. Boo. </p>
<p>I’ve been hired help so I at least know how NOT to treat people. I hope I’ll treat them well lol.</p>
<p>Like Romani, I’ve been on both sides of the fence. My grandmother has a cleaner who is as much a family friend as anything else. I can’t say that anyone’s ever cracked the whip before - her main tasks are to drink coffee with her and keep her company, with a little light cleaning on the side. </p>
<p>Having worked in hospitality for years, probably the time when you come into most contact with a family is when working a wedding. Based on my very anecdotal experience, people who have ‘old money’ tend to treat their staff far, far better than those with ‘new money’. We’re talking about the difference between someone asking if you are warm enough, and someone expecting you to work a 17 hour shift with no food and no break. </p>
<p>However, I think we may be in danger of derailing this thread a bit </p>
<p>@sseamom - of course it isn’t only European parenting, but I don’t feel comfortable enough with other styles of parenting to comment :)</p>