<p>(So for those who don’t know, I was a cheerleader in college for four years.)</p>
<p>We had an interesting situation the one year we decided to get a coach rather than write all our routines ourselves. When we had written the routines and dances, it had been pretty standard stuff – maybe a hip shake here or there, but mostly just sharp, synchronized motions.</p>
<p>The coach came in and immediately started choreographing stuff that we found shocking (and it’s hard to shock a group of college girls!) – extremely suggestive bumping, grinding, touching, etc. At one point, we were to “display the school name”, which was of course written on our chests. Needless to say, a) we terminated our affiliation with the coach not too long after (for this and several other reasons), and b) never got a coach again.</p>
<p>Somewhere, there is some sort of coaching conglomerate that truly believes sexy cheerleader dances are a great idea…</p>
<p>mollieb- I didn’t see you as the cheerleader type…great story! yeah, maybe the culprit is the choreographer…I’m going to get to the “bottom” of this!
just don’t make me the “butt” of any jokes for starting this thread, but I had to get this off my chest … :eek:</p>
<p>where are the good punsters when we need them</p>
<p>I had a conversation with my Ds tonight about “freaking” and the dry hum)(ing …they said but that’s how we know to dance…it our generation…I mentioned that at dances with parents, they can dance withoit rubbing up against people, so why do you feel its necessary to let some guy get a (um what guys get) by acting like a dog on your leg…ew, mom, its not like that…uhhuh…yeah, guys push up against girls cause they like dancing soooo much…</p>
<p>My D refused to attend the dances sponsored by her high school. (S hasn’t any interest in them either.) She was disgusted by the graphically suggestive sexual gyrations of most couples on the dance floor, and shuttered at the thought of being “humped” by some horny boy she scarely knew in some hot, sweaty gym. </p>
<p>I believe there’s strong evidence to suggest that this style of dance is inspired by the countless Hip-hop/ganster music videos that infect MTV and BET. Have any of you seen the type of video I’m referring to? Only the most “sexually liberated” among the parent’s on these forums would fail to find them somewhat disturbing. I personally see little difference between the performance of such choreographed moves by the high school’s cheerleaders, and the allowance of this kind of behavior at school sponsored dances. D and S have both reported that many of the faculty chaperones were very disturbed by how rawly sexual these dance moves are, but were powerless to stop it. Since a lot of teachers now flatly refuse to chaperone the dances, many of them have been cancelled in recent years due to the school’s inability to fully staff them. Awww, to bad;)…</p>
<p>my D just got home from a school dance, with new rules, ie, you must face your partner…anyway, she said it was really fun, you didn’t have to worry about some guy coming up behind you and having to deal with getting away from him</p>
<p>she said the girls liked it…imagine that…they liked not having to think about some sweaty guy pushing into them…</p>
<p>my youngest didn’t want to go because she didn’t like the rules, well the older kids all went and the rules were okay with them…they actually danced!@!!</p>
<p>That’s really good to hear, CGM. Wish my kids’ school had the guts to institute rules that would keep things from getting out of hand at these dances…:mad:</p>
<p>and the kids actually had fun!!! such a shock…you can have fun dancing…doing the dreaded twist…</p>
<p>yeah, and the kids were worried it wouldn’t be fun, but the seniors, who see life beyond, decided to enjoy themselves, and they really did</p>
<p>and my D who didn’t go with her “cool” friends, sat in someones house watching movies…bored…lesson learned, that sometimes rules can actually make for more fun, not less</p>
<p>(and no I won’t say I told her so, her big sister already did!!!)</p>
<p>hmmm, that’s weird, the thread was moved and in the process my last post was lost…
I was just saying no one is dancing here, we’re prepping for ACT tomorrow and all skipped the big game tonight, so no re-run of the promiscuous/ridiculous girls :D</p>
<p>I’ll have to see that movie, and check in with my d about the dance rules, etc</p>
<p>Thanks for all the moral support and funny stories, somewhere along the line today I managed to come up with the latest reincarnation of my d’s list…</p>
<p>maybe my lost post will arrive soon, in which case I may have repeated myself; or did I get censored , or what?</p>
<p>May I suggest that part of the slutty cheerleader problem is that none of the baby boomers in charge want to appear judgmental or “prissy” by questioning it. That reluctance is quite characteristic of our generation, and manifests itself in many ways.</p>
<p>With regards to the type of dancing that typically occurs among highschoolers, my d and her then-boyfriend attended a state-wide NHS convention a few years ago, and there was a dance that was part of the convention. They were required to attend as a group. However, my d and her friend were so upset and disturbed by the behavior of the other students on the “dancefloor” (my daughter was actually in tears), they went outside, had a talk with their sponsor, and were allowed to not participate. </p>
<p>How sad! Now, however, as a poster noted above, thankfully, in college “dancing” means really dancing and is, once again, fun!</p>
<p>Well, here it is, basically not admitting any problem or guilt, just saying I’m going to have a meeting:
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<p>Interesting how a complaint from a very p*ssed parent is now termed “feedback”, and how there is no mention of getting back to me and actually being accountable for any of it…</p>
<p>Well you know, wecandothis, in a way, this communique does acknowledge that there’s a problem. Otherwise, there would be no meeting to “discuss future performances”. If the dance and accompanying music was as sexually inappropriate as you indicate, surly many others were disturbed by it too, even if you are the only one who formally lodged a complaint (and I very much doubt that is the case). Administrative egos are at stake here, so I wouldn’t have expected mea culpas at my feet. The proof that your complaint (and quite probably, that of many others) has been taken seriously will be manifest at the next cheerleader performance. Here’s hoping that you’ll be able to report that things did indeed change. Good Luck.;)</p>
<p>Thank you for your response, I do appreciate your following through on this matter. I look forward to hearing the outcome of the meetings and to see what direction the cheer squad will be heading.</p>
<p>If you or any of the coaches have any questions regarding my concerns, I will be more than happy to share my thoughts.</p>
<p>(This way he knows you will not just drop it and will be watching)</p>
<p>cgm- I did respond with something in that vein, basically thanking her for the follow-up, then a direct question, along the lines of : Would you please let me know the outcome of the meeting? </p>
<p>but not as good as yours cgm! I’m going to start sending all my <em>sensitive</em> correspondence to you first for editorial advice! Any tips on how to write an email to my ex-husband who is ignoring my request for 2 pieces of innocuous info I need to complete my income taxes??!!! :rolleyes: other than, “if you don’t provide this and our taxes are inconsistent it could trigger an audit, and we don’t want that now do we, you dirty #$% of a %##&# ???” </p>
<p>I told you, I need help with diplomacy!! lol</p>
and all skipped the big game tonight, so no re-run of the promiscuous/ridiculous girls :D</p>