No I didn’t. I said I did have experience being a smart young woman in high school, but answered her question “was dating harder for you when you were young because you’re smart?” with the answer that no, it wasn’t.
Why not?
-Maybe I wasn’t viewed as smart. I honestly don’t think that’s the answer since I was a straight A student in honors classes.
-I wasn’t viewed as shy, but I was considered “calm” and “reserved”. I certainly would not have been characterized as extremely outgoing, but I was told I was easy to talk to.
-Clearly I wasn’t viewed as intimidating, or I would not have had a satisfactory dating experience.
I think it may have to do with intangibles such as how a girl or boy shows interest that doesn’t have anything to do with saying explicitly that they are interested. It could be facial expressions, body language, a certain way with words. Do they seem to possess in inner confidence yet not an off-putting conceit? These kinds of qualities are hard to directly correlate to the question at hand.
How do they “wear” their intelligence? I have a friend who is genius level smart, and she has never had a satisfying romantic life. I suspect that it’s not that she is intimidating because she is intelligent, it’s that she conveys a certain arrogance about it. There was recently a post on CC where someone said that they had had the hardest time ever finding someone who was their “intellectual peer.” My friend would likely say the same, and I’d guess her attitude is part of the problem.
Unless no smart girls at the OP’s school are getting dates, I’d guess that being smart has little to do with it.
One thing I can say about myself when I was in high school that differs from the OP’s daughter was that I was only 5’ 5" tall. It does seem very likely in our society (then as now) that boys often hesitate to date girls who are taller than they are, which shows that perhaps they are intimidated by THAT rather than anything to do with the young woman’s intelligence, personality, or character.
I also agree that as described by her mother, the OP’s daughter will have no trouble attracting male attention as she (and they) mature.