Thanks all again for the responses. The more I think about it, I think that D’s ambition and drive may play a larger factor in this than her intelligence. She has very big goals and aspirations, and she likes being in leadership positions at school and the community. I don’t think she necessarily appears arrogant towards others, but she does like being in charge. I can easily see now how a rather tall, very ambitious, smart girl could intimidate the majority of the male dating pool at her school.
For what it’s worth, she had fun at homecoming with her friend, and seems to be over the dating angst for now. Now she can fully concentrate on school, ha!