I was the same height or shorter than the males I dated. I admit to feeling a bit insecure when they weighed less then me—I wanted us to be similar BMI (it’s not something I had expected to be concerned about as I am pretty low BMI, but when they were even lower BMI, it nade me FEEL irrationally huge). My BMI is and has mostly been 21-22 most of my life. Guys with lower BMIs just seemed so thin.
I have always been toward the top of the curve in school and college but seriously never had difficulty having many male friends and dates with males at any point in my life from age 16 until married at 26. I have never been shy socially, more of an extrovert. Most of the men I knew and dated weren’t intimidated by my intelligence and I considered most of them intellectual peers (or dropped them after a short while).