<p>I’m with Romani. I don’t think student behavior is much different from when I was in college in the early 80’s. To the worried parents, you have to trust your kids that you raised. I know my kids would be disgusted by the behavior in the OP.</p>
<p>Post#38, I didn’t claim to know everybody, cause nobody does. I’m just saying base on my observation of the conversation there didn’t seem to be among my kids friend.
They told me when their friends took off close and was naked with a guy but didnt do anything and she broke up with the guy. Then in college she met an older guy got drunk and had sex. I mean they told me these stories because the were nothing to hide even if they did.</p>
<p>About the APs and ECs maybe incorrect for your area but this is my area and my observation. You can’t say it any more correct or incorrect because you don’t know it any better than I know it. I know how late they work an study and how much sleep they need. I’m much closer to them so i would think I know. Kids do talk, nothing prevents them. </p>
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<p>Yes… They’ve only been around for 30+ years 
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<p>DrGoogle, fwiw, I was one of those AP/multiple EC kids. Except for my parents and a few very close friends, no one knew I was sexually active. Just because kids don’t talk doesn’t mean it doesn’t go on (not saying it does either- some people just choose not to talk about it) </p>
<p>But not all kids are the same even within the same family.</p>
<p>… yes… which is what I said. Not everyone is the same. </p>
<p>Yes but did you have a steady boyfriend because none of these kids had steady boyfriend.</p>
<p>Yes, but again, not the point.
My best friend never had a steady boyfriend or girlfriend and yet I was the only person who knew he was sexually active (well, besides his partners of course). </p>
<p>Anyway, ALL I’m saying is that just because kids don’t “talk” doesn’t mean something’s not going on. Nothing more, nothing less. </p>
<p>Also- for those worried about teens have sex, rest assured that the average age of sexual debut has been rising since the early/mid-90s. Despite what the media wants you to believe, kids are actually putting off sex. </p>
<p>Well I reluctantly agree. Maybe I shouldn’t use the term talk about.</p>
<p>I meant stories were not told rather than the person did do the talking. For example, one girl called and asked my daughter whether she should have sex with this football guy. She asked a few friends if my daughter too and they told her no because this guy already had a girlfriend but just want this girl as a casual but not as a girl friend. They knew each other since kindergarten. So that didn’t happened. She went to CC and met and older male student and they booked hotel and had sex for a week and then he dumped her. These are stories that were told and then I knew who did or didn’t do anything. Nothing was hiding.</p>
<p>Honestly Romani, I really have never heard of these. Will google them.</p>
<p>I’ve heard of them but didn’t know they were available to the public yet.</p>
<p>I’m going to disagree that this is the same as it ever was. Back in my day, the 80s, people had lots of sex, but there was an element of dating involved. Now, some college kids sleep together, but see going out to dinner, or even making eye contact again, to be problematic. I can report from my kid who has graduated and is out of the college scene that things do get better. More emphasis on getting to know people, doing fun activities together, actual dating type stuff.</p>
<p>Partly to blame is popular entertainment like Sex & the City, where a fictitious character can miraculously afford to live in manhattan and buy a closet full of designer clothes & jimmy choo’s on a newpaper columnist’s salary, and hook up with half the population of manhattan w no ill consequences. </p>
<p>Gossip Girl is another trash series that popularizes the hookup culture. </p>
<p>My husband sometimes watch 2.5 men, it’s pretty bad too.</p>
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<p>Well, part of this is that it really isn’t acceptable anymore to “date” more than one person at the same time anymore. In the past, dating was less serious. In a given time period, a person may have a few people that they dated continually and then may decide to “get serious” with one of them. Nowadays, this is much less acceptable. So either someone is in an exclusive relationship (non-intimate or intimate) or is “hooking up”–there is no in between. </p>
<p>There’s a lot of nostalgia for a past that never really existed in this thread, isn’t there—you know, back in the day when nobody ever had casual sex, when all the kids were responsible, when everyone gathered together around the family dinner table every night to sing together in harmony, and so on.</p>
<p>Yeah, I know, I’m overstating it, but that’s really what’s happening here. As was pointed out upthread, the average age of first intercourse has been rising for several years now, and all of the objective evidence points to teens and young adults becoming more responsible, not less, when it comes to partnering, both sexually and non-sexually.</p>
<p>Basically, the kids are alright. Yes, there are some aberrations, but they’re rare—just as they have always been.</p>
<p>(Oh—and contra an assertion made earlier, it wasn’t the historical norm for kids of traditional college age to be married. You know what the average age of first marriage in England in the 17th and 18th centuries was in the mid- to late twenties. Just because something was normal in the 1950s doesn’t mean that that’s what was always the case.)</p>
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