Some questions about Engagement etiquette

After 24 years of marriage, I still address my inlaws as Mr and Mrs. I would never call someone else mom or dad, it doesn’t feel right to me. A lot of it seems to be cultural. We live in a predominately white area, and I constantly have to tell my kids friends to address me as mrs. partyof5. Black parents are notorious for not letting you address them by their first name.