<p>My husband is like Snowball’s - helps out around the house, including dishes every night even though I haven’t worked in a couple years now. But more important than that, he’s really a fantastic reader - seriously, never is without a newspaper, magazine or book and always wants to discuss every idea with me. In the mornings I sit sipping my coffee and he reads the newspaper to me and we discuss. I love his mind. I really do.</p>
<p>Anybody else humming the old TV theme song for “Eddie’s Father” ? (Or old enough to have watched it in second grade…)
People let me tell you about my best friend,
He’s a warm-hearted person who’ll love me to the end.</p>
<p>Sorry if it’s corny, but that’s my H.</p>
<p>Thanks for the opportunity to talk about my wonderful DH. We’ve been married more than 30 years and both work full time.</p>
<p>This morning I awoke to a fresh cup of coffee on my nighstand. Later, I came home from my office and dinner was simmering on the stove. Mmmmm, jambalaya. Out in the backyard, DH was replacing the last 6 feet of fencing along one side of the yard. He started this project about 2 weeks ago, and has replaced the privacy fence all alone working on it a bit at a time after work. Also took the chainsaw to some unruly branches. After dinner he took care of some volunteer work (paperwork and phone calls) and now he is on the computer checking out hotels for a trip we might take.</p>
<p>He’s a keeper.</p>
<p>Spouse is one of the most objective people I know–doesn’t immediately take sides and is a very good listener!</p>
<p>This thread makes me happy, partly because it’s nice to hear about so many wonderful, caring, thoughtful men, and partly because I have one too (and it’s good to hear he’s not alone). I don’t know how I got so lucky.</p>
<p>I think it would be awesome if all these incredible husbands could be featured in a book somehow.</p>
<p>There are some jerky types out there who believe that their behavior is no different than anyone else’s. It would be nice to have the collected stories about awesome men/husbands/dads that could be a benchmark for excellence! </p>
<p>My h has many great traits, but as I said before, he’d be embarrassed to read this thread. He would be shocked to learn what other men do for their wives. Bring wives coffee/tea in bed? Helping around the house? Cooking? Dishes? Laundry? Those things are completely foreign to him. Even though he’s not “jerky,” it would be nice for him to see what other men do.</p>
<p>He rubs my feet at night.</p>
<p>My husband brings me coffee in the morning. He calls me to ask me if I have any plans before he makes a tee time for golf. DH eats my cooking and says it tastes great!</p>
<p>Part of it depends on what they lived with. Hubby grew up with a helpful dad and became a helpful and caring hubby. I think many husbands & wives may know what other marriages may involve in the way of responsibilities in the abstract but would just find it “odd” for themselves. My dad was a wonderful man but when we were growing up, he was too busy working full time & socializing and did NOT “help” around the house, other than yardwork. There were 7 of us kids, so mom had her hands full. Each of my brothers help a LOT more around the house than dad did, but each is married to a wife that works many hours outside the home (most full time but one part-time).</p>
<p>My great aunt once asked me what I did to contribute to the household, since my husband is such a gem. She ironed, did all the shopping, cooking, cleaning, and worked full-time. She didn’t understand why a husband would or should do any of that–different strokes.</p>
<p>I would like to interject that my parents are the most loving, giving, happy, and God honoring people I know. For the past seven years we have breakfast together while one of us reads a chapter from the Bible. Then we discuss it and pray. While they are not perfect, man do they provide an amazing model for loving God and others that profoundly effects me. We work as a team sharing all chores. We constantly laugh and even if we argue, it doesn’t last long. We feel so lucky to have them as our parents! Thanks God!</p>
<p>TrueLove, you are indeed lucky and blessed. </p>
<p>My FIL did nothing around the house. He worked full-time and took care of the yard. That was it.
But my MIL loved socializing on the weekends and FIL indulged her. DH says the two of them went out almost every weekend to eat, dance, drink,play cards, do whatever with their friends,leaving DH’s big sis in charge of her three siblings. </p>
<p>DH always felt somewhat neglected. Consequently, when our kids were growing up, we rarely went anywhere without them until they were teenagers and out doing their own thing.<br>
DH has never brought me tea/coffee in the mornings and is really not a romantic or a very “social” guy. He is really smart with a typical engineer’s personality.
He never leaves me at home to pursue outside interests i.e. golf. We do everything together on weekends. We share every important decision. He actually takes an interest in home decorating! We laugh a lot but have no problem being quiet together. . He is such a good “caretaker” of our family. </p>
<p>My friend’s husband is an alcoholic. He sees nothing wrong with his actions because he still holds a job and provides for his family. Because he manages to go all day without drinking during the workweek (but starts as soon as the sun goes down), he says he is in control and doesn’t have a prob.<br>
Last year they went to a family type outdoor music festival with us where alcohol was not permitted. He filled a giant water bottle with beer and sucked it through a straw all afternoon. She is miserable. She does go to Al-Anon but her life is still a mess. I feel so bad for her and every day am so thankful that I was blessed with such a great DH.</p>
<p>One other thing that is wonderful about Bullet is that every night when we lay in bed watching tv, he will brush my hair until I fall asleep, regardless how much his arm is tingling from the awkward position it is in.</p>
<p>I would love to cut my hair shorter again, but if I did I don’t know how I would fall asleep ;)</p>
<p>I think if he said something about me, it would be that when I make his lunch (he doesn’t take lunch everyday), I write a love note on the top of the brown bag and folded it over so when he opens it he knows I thought about him.</p>
<p>my husband is the most generous person I have ever met.
one example :
last year ,when money was tight and business was slow,our neighbor at our store was in very bad shape financially. the propane company would not fill his tank because he owed them money…my husband saw him trying to hook up to propane tanks meant for a grill
When our delivery came for the store, my husband had their tank filled and billed to us. He never told the neighbor how he ended up with a full tank, thus being able to heat the home he shares with his wife and baby
He is truly the guy who would give you the shirt off of his back, even if it was his last shirt</p>
<p>I have enjoyed reading this thread. Good to know there are still “great ones” out there!</p>
<p>My husband is one of those. When my first marriage was shortlived and my ex “bailed out” when I was pregnant, I met my answer to prayer when my daughter was 10 months old. He sat and fed her from the first day he met her, bought her clothes when I was struggling, and became her legally adopted “Daddy” a few months after we married when she was three. Since then we’ve added two boys to the mix. Even before we met he has worked offshore 28 on/14 off. During the 28 days, he has been on the phone every single day, talking, discipling, helping with homework, etc, directing on how to fix anything that’s broken. During the 14 days home, he has been the fieldtrip dad, the dad that bakes cookies for the Girl Scouts, or spends a week at Boy Scout camp, helps with ANYTHING the kids need, along with doing laundry, cooking, cleaning and yardwork…and even taking his wife to lunch when there is time. He loves us unconditionally, even in my worst moods, and becomes a medic even in our worst sicknesses. He tells me all the time that he’s NEVER going anywhere “except to work”…on the worst of days when I wonder how much more he can endure. He provides for us, worships with us, and is the greatest man I could have ever been blessed with. Now that all the kids are grown…he is a loving “grandpa” and gives his all. My daughter often said as a teen that when she got married she wanted “Daddy to train him”. :)</p>
<p>How blessed can one woman be? </p>
<p>(Sorry for carrying on…he is EVERYTHING to me).</p>
<p>^^^</p>
<p>Ok…that story brought tears to my eyes…</p>
<p>Hug that hubby for me.</p>
<p>Just a few of the many things I could say:</p>
<p>–My wife is a natural-born leader and one of the most responsible human beings I’ve ever known. Once she knows what needs to be done, it is as good as done. She’s tremendously organized, a great manager of people, schedules and processes, and she does it with little or no ego involvement (i.e., she doesn’t care if she gets the credit, as long as things get done). </p>
<p>–She has a wonderful sense of humor and is very tolerant of my foibles and shortcomings (most of the time, anyway–it would take a saint to be tolerant of them all the time). </p>
<p>–She’s resolutely positive, the ultimate “glass half full” person.</p>
<p>–She’s tremendously loyal and generous to anyone who is lucky enough to call her friend or family, and she’s great at maintaining connections with people. </p>
<p>–She’s fearless. I will never forget the time she and I were caught up in an armed robbery of an electronics store. The robbers herded us and the sales clerk into the stockroom. I thought we were all going to die; I hope I didn’t make an ass of myself, but I was certainly terrified and a little glassy-eyed around the edges. My wife just sat there on a carton, body language completely unruffled, wisecracking with the robbers, acting like this was a slightly unusual wrinkle to a normal day. She is tough. </p>
<p>–She’s still cute.</p>
<p>nightchef, WOW.</p>
<p>You know, it’s nice to hear all these stories about LIVING people. You usually only hear this type of thing at a funeral.</p>
<p>Maybe we should encourage those we wrote about to read this before their funeral?!</p>
<p>As I read through these, I keep thinking of more nice things about H.</p>
<p>This is such a nice thread. Thanks for starting it, atomom</p>
<p>You’re welcome! </p>
<p>But it is still running behind the “pet peeves” thread, so I hope some more folks will be inspired to post. </p>
<p>C’mon, think hard. . .</p>