I am currently a Sophomore at a private college and I just got the “we really loved getting to know but we didn’t think you were a good fit…” notice from on of the fraternity members on bid day before bids had started as a courtesy they let me know. My thing is they really didn’t say what they were looking at their website even states that there is not a “one size fits all” for the group, but apparently there are some unspoken requirements! Recommendations for getting over it? It is rather hurtful to get a “no” from a bunch of guys who you really liked and enjoyed hanging out with. My question is should I rush Jr year or just give it up. somewhat depressing since I really wanted to join the group and really put myself out there. if I rushed another group Jr I’d just spend one year in a group and would only really get to know the guys for a year. Thoughts?
Be yourself do not seek validation by joining a fraternity