Sorry for your loss, @Mom22039. Wishing your family comfort.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, @Mom22039. Hugs to you.
I’m sorry for your loss @Mom22039. I hope you feel the support of the CC community, across the miles.
I’m so sorry @Mom22039. Big cyberhugs to you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss, @Mom22039. May your family find strength and peace in the coming days.
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@mom22039, wishing you peace and wonderful memories…
Another online friend sending you a virtual hug.
So very sorry for this sad news. May your memories together be a comfort and blessing.
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I’m so sorry, @Mom22039. I was in your shoes about 9 years ago, and I remember the emptiness that clunked me over the head after all the decisions and tasks were done. Things got brighter with time, though not always in a straight line. Sending you strength and lots of sympathy for the road ahead.
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Hi all, the days are full but I am seeing glimmers of loneliness in the future.
My “fantasy” is to plan a list of all the places I want to go — and to post the list to see who wants to join me (no more than 3 days at a time). I’m getting ahead of myself. But I do like to be a planner!
The funeral plans are set and the relatives are arriving. The post-funeral-emotional-crush starts next Tuesday.
I’m terribly sorry for your and your family’s loss and D1.
So sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in the way you need it as you mourn.
I’m so sorry—please know that all of us, your virtual friends are here for you to vent. It is so hard to lose ant loved one, especially a spouse. May your memories of happier times bring you and your kids comfort.
This is so awful.
Try and remember to eat, too. The days ahead will be hard, so come back here and let us know how it is going.
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Can’t sleep…. So here I am.
Funeral plans are done. Obit is done. Dresses fit. We’re getting organized. I’ve tried to reach out to DH’s former colleagues. I forgot he had a LinkedIn until yesterday.
There’s one thing that’s bugging me —- that’s the people who try to ask/tell me whether they should come. It’s not a conversation I want to have. I have enough on my plate that I don’t even want to be involved in whether they should come.
Counterpoint that I greatly appreciate are those who have made it known, they ARE coming. I can’t wait to see them. Seeing them will make me cry — and those are the cathartic tears I can’t wait to share. They are the people who KNOW that our memories are important and even attending the viewing or funeral (or the food-centered gatherings) will create new memories (shared experiences) that provide such value in our lives.
There are others, for whom I completely understand they can’t come. I appreciate their honesty, concern, and even willingness for a phone call in the future.
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New sadness. I just realized that the medical center has closed his MyChart account. I can no longer look to recap the history. Also, I can’t access the contact info easily for any Medical pro I might want to thank. For that matter, there are still open claims and I’d like to be able to corroborate dates.
I stopped at CVS yesterday and asked that the pharmacist not fill any more auto refills. I’m Ok with closing that account!
I’m awake also!
Yes, it seems a burden you don’t need when people ask questions you can’t and don’t want to answer.
It seems a bit insensitive at this moment. Come or not but don’t involve me.
Chat away, mornings are when I do my best internet scrolling
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I wonder if you can request an archive of the my chart. From his primary.
But that’s certainly was a bummer to find out
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My deepest condolences for your loss. I cannot even imagine. That’s good to know about the chart closing - I hadn’t thought of that! Do you think they could reopen it for you if you asked?
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I am so sorry for your monumental loss. As for those who place burdens on you, maybe you can save a canned text/email in response? Sill awfully painful but one and done.
xoxoxoxo
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