It’s possible this is just an automatic step when a patient dies. I would see if there is a “contact us” option, or reaching out to the health system the electronic record is with or even your husband’s primary care doc or another primary doc who may still have access or could help you get records.
I hope the services though likely to be filled with emotions are helpful to you. We will be thinking about you. <3
Odd about the MyChart; my husband’s is still active 12 weeks later. Now Medicare and Social Security were shut down within days. I would hope a call can get that opened, or at least provide you a full print out of all document. Make that a future Mom22039 task, don’t worry about that today, you have enough to focus your energy on.
There are people that don’t know what to say or do after a death, so while they that are trying to have conversations with you about attending or not, just tell then to do what that want. Believe me, I know the conversations are annoying and upsetting, but try to accept, these are people that care about you and/or your husband and the last thing they mean to do is be upsetting.
We are all here for you, so come and speak freely. You know I understand. 
I just don’t understand the question, “Should I come?” I understand someone asking that to their spouse or a close friend, but certainly not you! In my experience you go to a funeral to show respect to the bereaved and to try to ease their grief. And also perhaps because you yourself are bereaved by this death and want to be with other people experiencing the same thing.
My uncles did the same. When active I could see every time someone did something for him when hospitalized. Learned my lesson. With my husband I print off every report and message and test and summary as we go. Not sure why I need this when he’s gone but thought it was weird to not be able to go back and see information on uncle
So very sorry for your loss, @Mom22039 
Hi everyone, the funeral was yesterday. I’d like to say that life is returning to normal. It’s going to be mighty quiet though.
Shall I create a new thread about “afterwards”? I’m now in the midst of the financial details. Who wants to know the pitfalls?
We have a support after caregiving thread where you can post: Support after caregiving- bereavement thread
I hope the funeral allowed for some good memories shared and love and support felt from those who were there in person - and those who couldn’t be.
Pace yourself, and be accepting of any particular feeling on any particular day. Don’t be afraid to be sad, or numb, or even smiling
Hugs to you @Mom22039. I think of you often and wish you the best in your journey of the new normal that’s not normal at all.
We met with our new estate attorney yesterday to update our trust. We really liked her, very smart and came highly recommended. It’s the first big overhaul of our trust since we established it in 1992. She discussed what needed to happen when the first spouse passes. It made my head spin! And it likely will be me having to navigate those waters as H has chronic health issues, most significant being cardiac. While he’s proactive in his health management, there are genetic abnormalities. I think it’s time for me to be realistic.
Please do keep updating … venting if that helps too. I’ll follow the bereavement thread if you decide that’s where you’d rather post. Most importantly, take care of yourself. You were the champion in your H’s life and I hope you find comfort in that.
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