Strait Guy with Probably Gay Room Mates: How to make them feel comfortable / know you're ok with it?

College Life
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I’m a strait male, and was matched with a few likely gay apartment mates (likely a couple). I don’t care they are gay, but I feel like they might be afraid to be open about it, or at least nervous about that I’ll inevitably find out about it, and how I’ll react, etc… So what’s the best way to indicate that I don’t mind they are gay?

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This answer is going to be super simple and may sound mean but treat them normally. You can be friends with them and when they feel comfortable telling you, you can let them know you’re fine with it. Or another option is just awkwardly pointing out guys you think they’d look good with and just be an awesome wingman for them.

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Treat them normally.

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I wouldn’t bring it up, but just be friendly and do what you would with any other roommate. Now… the coupledom could be a problem if it is the case. That has nothing to do with being gay – couples are often pretty focused on each other, and you might feel excluded. And if they break up during the year, tensions could be high. I’d stay friendly with all and neutral if they break up. :slight_smile:

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i was in the opposite situation. I start with the assumption that in college these days, people don’t have a problem with it. If you already know they’re gay it’s cause they don’t mind you finding out. So don’t make a deal of it, don’t make it awkward.

If after living them a while you get the impression they’re for some reason hiding it needlessly, you can do them the favor at that point - “i found out on facebook you’re gay, just want you to know it’s cool”…simple like that

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By minding your own business.

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I wouldn’t even bring it up. Your room mate will tell you at some point, and when they do, just tell them that you think it’s totally fine, and thank them for opening up to you about it.

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I don’t see a need to worry about it.

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If you hear anyone putting down gays, say something about that.
Otherwise, it is like saying “I am cool if you are left handed”

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By not brinfingers it up. Just act natural.