I won’t recommend OP stop thinking about his daughter’s college plans, rather thinking about it this way: She’s a capable student and will get into an excellent school with the guidance of her HS counselor, though not necessarily a particular college. What she’s doing now possibly is trying to get some lost middle school experiences back. Academically overloaded elementary and middle school days are kind of robbing kids’ youth IMO. When they get older they can do much more.
I’m generally happy with our public schools, kind of laid-back without much homework, at least for unto seventh grade that I currently know. I wish schools offer something challenging for those who want to be challenged, e.g., a teacher may say: “Here’s something challenging. Whoever wants to work on them, have fun.” And later ask if they have any problems. Maybe the kids will get more opportunities in higher grades.