<p>If the university’s policy is no overnight guests (first quote), then why do they have policies for overnight guests (second quote)? Or is your university’s policy no overnight guests unless certain procedures are followed?</p>
<p>It’s not; I never said it was. I said the only way that <em>A</em> university would be able to truly enforce a guest policy is if the policy is no overnight guests.</p>
<p>My university’s policy allows guests 24 hours, but within certain guidelines (have to get permission from the roommate, guest cannot stay longer than 5 consecutive days or a certain amount of days per month, etc.).</p>
<p>This whole story has me curious about so many things:</p>
<p>I wonder if the roomie was really as outrageous as the complainant makes her out to be, or if her complaints were exaggerated as part of her mental illness (eg., was it really all the time, or more like once or twice a week…)</p>
<p>I wonder if the complainant ever spent time out of the room…or was the room her comfort zone, and did she tend to stay in the room other than going to class.</p>
<p>I wonder what her problems were with all of her previous roommates.</p>
<p>I wonder how the complainant went through four years at the school without making friends that she wanted to room with/wanted to room with her.</p>
<p>I wonder about the roomie’s real behavior…was she really this blatantly atrocious? Did she purposely become super flagrant in her behavior on purpose…very mean! Or was this some kind of tit-for-tat behavior to get back at complaining roomie for some reason (still not excusable…but I am giving both parties equal credit for being immature).</p>
<p>I think the offended person has the weight of law on their side. The sexually explicit roomate is the one who was at fault, and should have been made to move. Doesn’t sexual harrassment include situations where people are made to feel uncomfortable by sexual behavior of other people?</p>
<p>I once woke up with a male student (senior–I’m a freshman girl) in my roommate’s bed (aka the top of my bunk). I’m still uncertain if they had sex above me while I was conked out. Just talked to my roommate about it (said I’m happy to be sexiled at a reasonable hour of the night–otherwise there’s a futon in our common room for her guests–but that I consider our room a kind of sanctuary and don’t want to be surprised like that). Problem solved.</p>
<p>If anyone should be paying for this I feel like it is the roommate. She went out of her way to make Blankmeyer uncomfortable and what she did sounds like it should be considered sexual assault to me.</p>
<p>covering this kind of thing? Do any of them say, “Hey, no sex with roommate present, and no telling your roommate to get lost so you can get down?”</p>
<p>^I think most schools take the position that students in the dorms are adults and can have sex if they want to, and that issue should be something roommates have to figure out between themselves. Exceptions might be Christian colleges, I guess. It’s also easier to ask your roommate to leave than just doing it when they aren’t there (and could come back at any time).</p>