<p>i go to the university of delaware, and they have a very respectable study abroad program. since i got accepted, i planned on studying abroad. however, about 6 months ago i met my current bf and now idk if this should change my plans. i want to study abroad the winter of my sophomore year (this winter). he is honestly giving me a hard problem about it, but i really don’t want to alter my plans. i guess i’m not really asking if i should go or not because i’m pretty set on going lol but am i doing something wrong here? do you know a lot of people who study abroad while in relationships?</p>
<p>what’s the basis of his argument for you not going? you should definitely go. don’t let your boyfriend keep you from doing something you want. that also seems kind of controlling as well. no reason he shouldn’t embrace you going to do something you want unless of course you have a history of doing things with other guys while in relationship. i’m assuming that’s not the case though. so no your not doing anything wrong here. go study abroad if that’s what you want. if your bf can’t accept that then he certainly isn’t the one for you.</p>
<p>study abroad. dump the bf</p>
<p>Win win</p>
<p>go on the study abroad. it’s seriously one year. he shouldn’t be that worked up over it.</p>
<p>study abroad. He’s just a college boyfriend.
If he gives you anymore trouble over it, then you should seriously consider breaking up with him.</p>
<p>the BF thing… that was one of my mom’s biggest regrets in college. She didn’t go abroad because of her BF- wanted to stay in the States and be able to see him… </p>
<p>Don’t regret it!!! I am abroad now (no relationship) and it’s really amazing :)</p>
<p>He might be afraid you guys are going to drift apart if you study abroad. If your relationship is serious and worthwhile, it won’t be affected negatively just because you happened to study abroad. If your relationship was doomed from the start, it might not make it through this, and the sooner you find out the better.</p>
<p>Seriously, chances are the guy has some trust issues or he is just clingy. You shouldn’t let him stop you from going abroad. This is probably the best thing that you could happen to your relationship.</p>
<p>As a student who is studying abroad RIGHT NOW in Denmark, I can tell you that going abroad is one of the best decisions you can make. I was originally not going to go for various reasons. Knowing what I know now, I would be kicking myself for the rest of my life.</p>
<p>Go abroad. </p>
<p>(I don’t have a gf at the moment, but Skype has worked wonders for people that do - fyi)</p>
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Yes, you are doing something seriously wrong here. You’re making a HUGE mistake by not showing this loser the door and kicking him in the pants on the way out!!!</p>
<p>Look at the comments up above and you can see how much value people get out of it. Talk to people in their 30’s or older and they’ll tell you one of the most memorable and life-changing experiences they had in college was a semester abroad. There are tons of links that show this, too; <a href=“http://www.transitionsabroad.com/publications/magazine/0403/benefits_study_abroad.shtml[/url]”>http://www.transitionsabroad.com/publications/magazine/0403/benefits_study_abroad.shtml</a></p>
<p>Now we’re on the topic of this BF. Far from being supportive and encouraging you to get as much out of college as you can, this guy is perfectly willing to have you sacrifice your happiness because he’s scared of losing his girlfriend or being alone for a few months. I knew plenty of people in college who were delighted to see their SO go abroad, helped to take care of mail and stuff back at college, had a highlight themselves when they bought a cheap ticket and went to visit. People do study abroad even if they’re in a relationship, just like they go home for summers and winter break even if they’re in a relationship. A few months apart don’t kill things, not if you’re with the right guy.</p>
<p>This guy? He wants you to give up your dreams for a freshman-year boyfriend, one who might not even be around by next winter and almost certainly not by the time you graduate. Warning bells ought to be going off in your ears that this guy is immature and clingy, that his interests are himself and not you. Yes, you are making a mistake here, and its spending another minute with him!! Run and don’t look back. Don’t accept his apologies and his begging to take him back with promises everything will be different after you break up with him; he doesn’t mean it (or won’t for long), his true colors are what you’re seeing right now.</p>
<p>That’s a little harsh… probably he’s just scared of being apart, which is understandable.</p>
<p>Get into a new realtinship abroad.</p>
<p>If it’s a semester anyone can wait that long. If its a fullyear year tell him to come visit you.</p>
<p>I would suggest going to China ;)</p>
<p>im not a college student but saw this thread…
my sister had the same problem she went to college in westchester(a little unknown college for women up there)she had a pretty serious bf who wasnt in college(had his AA and had a steady job didnt have the money to go 4 yrs…) she decided london was where she wanted to go(she my father and other sister went every january for 6 yrs for a weekend) and her bf didnt visit her(no money) but she came home for me when i had a brain surgery…and it was only september-December…</p>