<p>Hey guys! It’s me again with a rather strange problem. So, right now, I am enrolled in Session C and I am living in the dorm. I had a wonderful time living in the dorm during Fall and Spring. But, the social atmosphere during summer session is, rather, strange, unwelcoming and lackluster. </p>
<p>I seem myself as an individual with pretty adequate social skills. But it just seems that the people living in the dorm during summer are quite private. I hardly see any of them and they all keep their door shut. In addition, we have a lot of international students on our floor. They are from the same school and they just tends to stay within their own racial/social group without even acknowledging other people. And i don’t know if their cultural upbringing played a factor, but they seems to study 24/7, even on a Thursday night (no school on friday).</p>
<p>I do have a great relationship with my roommate. But other than that, i don’t really know anyone (even their name) on the floor. I am not trying to be whiny but what should i do?</p>
<p>Any help and suggestion would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks guys!</p>
<p>wow. the internet is a harsh place to ask for advice huh.</p>
<p>@burnout, first of all, I did go to some of the social. And I do have friends, but just not on the floor. The dynamic on my floor are rather … non existent. Thank for you rather rudely stated advice though.</p>
<p>@Pilfer, I am not sure what you are getting at. I am not attacking anyone specifically and I was in no intention of targeting/talking smack about anyone in session C. Beside, i don’t think the fact that I’m in session C is even relevant. Thanks for the response?</p>
<p>I don’t think you can help it, coopebble. Think about it: if a huge group of your friends were with you and you were only here for a couple of weeks, would you really be that social? I think some people want to make the most of it and meet as many new people as they can (which sounds like you), but others don’t see a point since the likelihood of you talking again is minuscule. I’m not saying they’re right and you’re wrong, just that different people have different preferences.</p>
<p>Plus, cultural issues, that’s one huge thing. I’m an international student. In my first year in the dorms, I found it ridiculously strange that all my American roommates had to gather together every night and spend 4 hours chatting about random stuff together. I’ve since gathered that this is the way people socialize. Back in my home country, we don’t go over to each other’s houses as often as you do, which translates into us not going into other’s rooms as often. The way we socialize is by meeting in the cafeteria, or maybe making appointments to get together.</p>
<p>tl;dr:
Not everyone wants to meet everyone else on their floor. Sad but true.
Not everyone views socializing the same way you do.
(and I’ll throw in two more)
Some of them may be shy. This is your country. Maybe if you introduced yourself first…?
Being in your room doesn’t mean you’re studying ;)</p>
<p>@meakame, thank you for putting things in to perspective. I guess it’s all part of being exposed to different culture and I will just keep that in mind before I make any unfair judgement. And yes, I am one of those people who can socialize for hours (I missed my late night hallway talk with my floor-mates last year!!). I will just try to be as open as possible!!</p>
<p>Oh, and by study. I mean having an ochem study party in the lounge with molecular structure drawn all over the blackboard. LOL. Anyway. thank you meakame!</p>
If you feel that way, try visiting LA. Compared to LA, Berkeley is like Disneyland - the happiest place on earth! You must not be trying at all, as people here are just so friendly xD Even the squirrels here are more friendly!</p>